He doesn’t want to hold you after sex
Most men fall in this category. The average guy
thinks that the definition of ‘after sex’ is
the duration of time between his orgasm and
the time it takes to reach for his phone.
Don’t take it personally: Guys are wired
differently. Now he’s climaxed and you’re
left dissatisfied. What the fuck?
Why Men Fall Asleep after Sex
Both men and women can get sleepy after
sex. They can’t help it. It’s the chemicals
released after orgasm.
There are set of specific reasons why
this tiredness occurs. In most cases it’s
a combination of exerting a lot of physical
energy during sex as well as the chemicals
released the after orgasm.
Then there is the biochemistry of the orgasm itself.
The release of prolactin is linked to the feeling
of sexual satisfaction, and it also mediates the
“recovery time” before before he gets another erection.
Men are sleepier after intercourse than
after masturbation. For unknown reasons,
intercourse orgasms release four times
more prolactin than masturbatory orgasms.
Exertion during sex and after climax
depletes the muscles of energy-producing
glycogen, which leads to sleepiness.
Since men have more muscle mass than women,
they’re generally sleepier after sex
A recent study suggested that men think about sex
19 times a day, almost 8,000 times less than previously thought.
They also think about food almost as much as sex,
18 times a day, closely followed by sleep, which
crosses their minds 11 times a day.
The biological explanation for tiredness after sex
may provide men with a helpful excuse to turn off
the light and go to sleep. It’s unlikely to be welcomed
by their partners who don’t experience the same effect.
After men have an orgasm they usually experience
a refractory period when they can’t be roused.
For women it seems to be different. They don’t
seem to have such a strong refractory period
and may be asking for more when their partners
just want a rest.
Of course, it’s likely the woman hasn’t had
an orgasm. There she lies, probably roused
but unsatisfied. Which is why a man should
make sure she comes before him.