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Fine Young Lesbians


 
 

 
 

Almost a decade ago, I was a newly-formed gay excitedly
coming out to everyone I knew. I jumped at openings to
tell people that I had a girlfriend and loaded my
backpack with rainbow pins so everyone who walked by
me would know that I was not straight.

But I never used lesbian to describe myself,
even though it’s the most accurate word.

As a woman who’s sexually and romantically attracted
solely to other women, I am a lesbian.

But for some reason, “lesbian” has always felt too harsh.
Even now, I find myself hesitating every time I use it.

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Gay and queer might feel less controversial to me,
but those words have homophobic histories as well.

Queer was a slur long before it was a word that describes
a sexual orientation, and while we traditionally think of
words like fag or dykeas LGBT slurs, even gay is a slur
when it’s said with malice.

While gay and queer feel safer than lesbian to me,
that may be a result of successful movements to
reclaim both of those words.

Young queer women now proudly call themselves dykes. But there
hasn’t been any major effort to reclaim the word lesbian.


 
 

A dyke is a woman committed to revolution,
the most radical position.

A lesbian is committed to a more liberal position. She’s
more willing to compromise and work within the system.

A gay woman affirms her commitment to a gay community
and sees nothing wrong with working with men.

A crone has moved beyond all the silliness of name-calling.


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