Porn usually fails to show oral sex as realistically as
viewers might want because it’s a lot more difficult to
shoot it in a way that is genuinely erotic and evocative.
It takes a lot of trial and error to put together videos
with the right mix of facial reactions, establishing shots,
wide shots and close-up shots of the cunnilingus itself.
The Fuck: Warming Up
Look at sex from a physiological point of view, analyzing the strictly physical component of sex and finding the best way to utilize positions.
My hope is that, if you are in a state of sound body and mind, you can follow these suggestions and lead yourself to a happier place.
For starters, we take a look at foreplay, in which the same, complacent techniques are used day after day. If you have been unsatisfied in your sexual endeavors thus far, why continue in your time-honored traditions?
Invigorate your style and put a spin on an age-old classic. One such variation I came across is called “the tunnel of love,” a hand job position in which you interlace the fingers of both your hands and overlap your thumbs, creating the “tunnel.”
Though be carefully advised: Do not begin getting adventurous without lube – the consequences will be severe.
We now move on to examine the ancient art of fellatio. One key component to oral sex that is tragically overlooked is rhythm.
In the world of sexual literature, you will see this word crop up again and again. It is the development of a good sense of rhythm that distinguishes experienced lovers from the naive, and it is rhythm that allows someone to hit the brink of the edge and come like that!
With this knowledge in mind, conquering fellatio is considerably less daunting. For blow jobs, I suggest that you focus on the area of the penis that connects the shaft to the head, otherwise known as the frenulum.
This area has abundant nerve endings and responds keenly to even the most gentle of touches. Use the tip of your tongue to glide up and down it, and just watch what happens.
As for cunnilingus, my advice is: Know your anatomy. It never fails to amaze me that there are still people out there ( both men and women) who haven’t the faintest idea about where the clitoris is.
Google it, check out an instructional booklet – there is no excuse for someone who is sexually active not to know this basic information.
And once you do, go back to the original mantra. Rhythm, rhythm, rhythm. Go slow; take your time and experiment with various paces.
Gauge your partner’s reaction to each technique and adopt the ones that yield the most applause, so to speak. Everyone likes a considerate lover.
How Intimate Is Oral Sex?
“What is it about Americans and
la pipe?” my French friends ask me.
La pipe is French slang for fellatio
or the common-or-garden blow-job.
Young Americans don’t consider oral sex to be “real” sex.
They see it as a stop-gap measure on the way to intercourse.
They don’t think it’s intimate the way we do in France.
But it is so intimate! Parce que c’est. It’s “in your face!”
The “base” system is the dominant framework used
by American teens. It privileges vaginal
intercourse over everything else.
In the bases framework, oral sex happens before
intercourse, and it’s simply a stop on the way
to the main event. It’s foreplay, not sex.
And it’s good, but it’s not as good as the home run.
French teens consider oral sex as real sex.
For them, oral sex and intercourse are by
and large equal. It’s a sexual act of the
same seriousness as penetration.
Maybe even more intimate.
When you go to bed with a guy for the first time,
you don’t necessarily give him a blow job.
That can even often come later, after intercourse.
This order of sexual behaviour makes sense
because of the French perception that oral
sex is far more intimate than intercourse.