Go Down: Golden Showers / Gushing Orgasms
For men, the potent pleasure point in anal massage
is the prostate, found inside their anal canal.
The prostate’s primary function in reproduction.
It secretes a fluid into semen before ejaculation
occurs, helping with sperm mobility and prolonging
the life of the sperm once it leaves the penis.
Start massaging your partner’s prostate externally.
Using your index and middle fingertips, you can
touch, rub, stroke, or press his perineum.
That’s the area of skin from underneath
his testicles to his anus. Using water-based
lube, gradually insert your finger(s) into his anus.
Insert your finger(s) about an inch or so. When
your partner is comfortable, move your finger(s)
in an upward motion along the wall of the rectal
lining facing the front of his body.
Try to locate a round bulb of tissue.
This is the prostate.
Move your finger(s) in a “come here” motion.
Use your finger pads or latex gloves to
massage his prostate. Don’t use your nails!
If he gets a lot of pleasure from anal massage,
it may send him over the edge if you rhythmically
or irregularly press on his prostate gland before
or during ejaculation. Many men orgasm through
prostate stimulation alone.
Anal Massage can be
very stimulating for
One of the most striking changes in American sexual behavior in nearly 20 years is the increase in anal sex between heterosexual couples. As many as 40% to 45% of women and men in some age groups reported having engaged in it.
It can involve fingering, licking, and toys. It’s fantasy and role play. It’s (possibly) G-spot stimulation and, for men who are on the receiving end, it’s (quite often) prostate stimulation. .
Anal fingering can be a comfortable and gentle place to begin exploring anal penetration. Unlike when using a sex toy, during finger-play the the one fingering can feel for himself what is going on inside a partner’s bum and get a sense of the interior landscape.
Fingering is often used to warm up the butt for bigger things to come–sex toys or a penis–but it can be an enjoyable end point all on its own.
The anal tissues are delicate and can be torn easily, so make sure to trim and file your fingernails well before anal sex begins, thus eliminating any rough or sharp edges.
If your nails are particularly long, pack them in cotton and wear a latex or non-latex glove. If you’re fingering or being fingered by a non-monogamous partner, “no glove, no love” is a policy you might want to take literally.
What to Do
Find a comfortable position in which the receiver can relax. A great deal of trust is involved when it comes to putting things in the butt, so many people like to start with the finger-ee on their back.
In this position, partners can maintain eye contact and the person being fingered can see what is happening, including how many fingers are going in at once (that way, there’s no surprises!).
A pillow under the lower back is an easy way to prop up the behind without the receiver having to contort or balance on elbows.
There’s not enough lube in the world to compensate for a lack of warm-up. So before anything is stuck anywhere, focus on the kinds of foreplay you typically enjoy together such as kissing, dirty talk, breast play or oral sex to get in the mood.
Lubrication is often the key between a good anal experience and the kind that turns people off of anal sex for life. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t lubricate on its own when aroused, so it’s important to use a personal lubricant.
Lubes are made from various ingredients and come in a multitude of consistencies. For more about lubes and your choices check out our mini-guide at goodinbed.com.
When you’re ready to try anal fingering, start by caressing the butt cheeks or teasing with kisses. With a well-lubed finger, circle the opening and “ring the doorbell”–tap the rosebud with the pad of a finger. This can be a good way to relax your partner’s anus and gently open things up.
Ask your partner if it’s okay to proceed. If given the green light, gently insert your index finger up to the first knuckle. Let your lover get used to the sensation and give the sphincter muscles a few seconds to relax; it might not be a bad time to check in again and make sure everyone is still having a good time.
If and when your partner is ready for more, ease your finger further in. Again, give your lover a chance to get used to the new sensation. If at any point your partner wants you to remove your finger, do so slowly and carefully.
If the two of you have decided to go in further, experiment to see what your partner likes. Explore the rectal walls with a gentle circular motion. Give a little wiggle. Try sliding your finger in and out, mix up the speeds and find out what pleases.
Having mastered one finger, you might want to try two or more. One technique is to cross your gloved index and middle fingers into a mega-finger (make sure that mega finger is properly lubricated). Use the same methods as with one finger. Go slow, and check in often with your partner.
Golden Showers / Gushing Orgasms
Trump’s “Golden Showers”
In completely crazy (and totally unverified) news, a report is going around alleging that the president is being blackmailed by Russia, with one part claiming that Trump ordered “golden showers” from “a number of prostitutes.”
The documents, published by BuzzFeed, also claim that under President Vladimir Putin, Russia has cultivated a relationship with Trump, and that Trump accepted intelligence about Democratic rivals from the Kremlin.
Trump has denied the allegations, tweeting: “FAKE NEWS – A TOTAL POLITICAL WITCH HUNT!” Update: On Wednesday morning, Russia denounced the unverified report involving supposedly compromising allegations against Donald Trump as an “absolute fabrication.”
ABC News reports that the FBI is investigating the claims. The full, utterly unverified report was published by BuzzFeed Tuesday. According to BuzzFeed, the memo was put together by a former British intelligence agent. The whole thing is insane, but here’s the most… crass allegation:
According to source D, where s/he had been present, Trump’s (perverted) conduct in Moscow included hiring the presidential suite of the Ritz-Carlton hotel.
He knew the Obamas (whom he hated) had stayed on one of their official trips to Russia, and defiling the bed where they had slept by employing a number of prostitutes to perform “golden showers” (urination) show in front of him.
Obviously, this is a very serious accusation and deserves to be treated with the utmost care. However, that doesn’t always happen on the internet, and on Tuesday, users took to Twitter to make a very serious situation into a lighthearted one with the hashtag #GoldenShowers.
Ever have an amazing orgasm only to be left
wondering in horror if you just peed all over somebody?
Relax and pat yourself and/or your partner
on the back for you may have just achieved
the mystical, controversial and often repressed
wet orgasm (aka squirting, gushing).
There’s plenty of porn dedicated to women soaking
the bed like fire hydrants during epic orgasms,
but female ejaculation is rarely that dramatic
which leads many to question its existence.
Those of us lucky enough to have achieved
or witnessed a squirting orgasm can confirm:
Yes, they are startling and the sheer volume
of cum may necessitate a few extra towels,
but the truth is…squirting orgasms ARE REAL!
Those of us lucky enough to have achieved or witnessed
a squirting orgasm can confirm: Yes, they are startling
and the sheer volume of cum may necessitate a few extra
towels, but the truth is…squirting orgasms ARE REAL!
That “lady-juice” isn’t urine as scientists once believed.
New research disproves the myth that the phenomenon known
as “female ejaculation’ is the result of involuntary urination.
Lab analysis has revealed that the fluid seen flying
across the beds and down the legs of women everywhere
is very similar to male ejaculate in chemical composition.
This has given birth to the hypothesis that the excretory
paraurethral glands (aka Skene’s glands or female prostate)
are the female counterpart of the male prostate gland
and responsible for the “squirting” orgasm.
The sensation women experience while having a wet orgasm
is frequently described as warm and intense and often
accompanied by clitoral and vaginal contractions.
There’s a noticeable swelling of external and internal
vaginal tissues and a warm (sometimes repeated and forceful)
gush of fluid bearing no resemblance to urine.