The Taming of BDSM
The BDSM community is identified less by the sexual
rituals or fetishist play they engage in than by
the toys and tools, gear and outfits they collect,
display, and expertly use.
Today’s S-and-M practice has become just another
form of conspicuous consumption, sharing much
with those into Harley bikes or muscle cars.
Fashion Fetish: “Fuck Me’
In the provocatively titled “Fuck Me”, Karlie Kloss
plays with a whip, writhes around on a bed
(tied to the bedposts, naturally), and shows off
some very fancy garters, among other things.
Masturbation has always been literary.
“Traffic with thyself”, as Shakespeare
called. The gifted don’t need porn.
It takes place in their imagination.
Fictional characters appear on screen.
Ninety years after Ulysses was banned for not-very-subtly
describing Bloom’s “long Roman candle” joyously exploding
in the air, the act of onanism retains a power to shock
that no other kind of sex in literature can.
Sex Brings out the Beast in Us
Sex is surrounded by an army of social norms,
religious restrictions and moral taboos. But why?
Sex is such a problem because it reminds
us of our basic, core animal nature.
It seems that our primal, animal sexuality
ignites fears of our own mortality.
Only when it is embedded in a uniquely human context,
like love and romance, is this not the case.
A Brief History of Female Pubic Hair in Porn
Way back in the crude, early forms of 1970s porn,
women still had full bushes. Riding the trains
of sexual liberation, feminism, and an organic
aesthetic, women chose to let their pubic hair grow free.
Yet by the 1990s, everything had changed.
Perhaps because hairless genitals allowed
the camera to capture more graphic shots.
Perhaps because coated vulvas were associated with
old, burly, 1970s Deadhead feminist aunts,
rather than sexy, kinky, American Pie,
Perhaps because the male lizard brain
may associate hairless vaginas with fertility.
No one can know for certain the cause.
We only know that much like woolly mammoths,
woolly labia were once roaming the reels
of porn, and then one day they were extinct.
Now there are claims that pubic hair is
fashionable again in porn, but if you’re
thinking that the resurgence of hair
is a stepping stone for feminism, think again.
Porn indirectly determines female tastes,
not the other way around.
If there is a resurgence of female pubic hair
in porn has nothing to do with feminism,
but with fashion and profit.