Do Men Want Sex All the Time?

Sex on the [Male] Brain

It’s an old cliché that men want more sex than women.
But is it true? You bet it is. Study after study
confirms that men (in general) think about sex and
desire it much more frequently than their partners.

And that can be a problem, because experts agree that
when there are sexual issues in a relationship it’s
often because of a mismatch in desire. Men want it all
the time, while women want it only when the time is right.

The average male turns his thoughts to sexual intercourse
13 times a day – a total of 4,745 times every year.

Almost a third even admitted it is often the first thing
they think about when they wake up in the mornings.

In comparison, women think about sex just
five times day – or 1,825 times a year.

But when it comes to actually having sex, men have
to make do with it an average of just twice a week,
or 104 times a year.

You want sex a lot. This is nothing to be ashamed of.
It doesn’t mean you’re some sort of sexual animal.
It’s testament to your partner’s powers of attraction.

Men want sex more often than women at the start
of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after
many years of it. We like sex quite a lot.
It’s just the way we are.

But it’s not the way women are. They’re more likely
than men to call themselves bisexual, for instance,
which suggests that women’s sexuality is a more
complicated and less straightforward affair.

Women’s sex drives are weaker than men’s and more
easily influenced by circumstances. Our sex drives
are different and we have respect that.

Men need to acknowledge that they are biologically
programmed, hot-wired if you like, to spread their
seed as often and as widely as possible.

In today’s cultural terms that means that they are
perfectly capable, even inclined, to have sex
without a great deal of emotion. But real life
and the needs of their partner step in.

Maybe what we really need to do is change partners.
Or have affairs. Or practise polyamory – having
more than one sexual relationship at a time with
the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.