The preponderance of blowjob media exposure has made
fellatio a routine part of hook-up culture, while
cunnilingus is reserved for the “special someone.”
The discrepancy between perceptions of
male and female oral sex is problematic.
When we normalize the type of sex that is male
pleasure-centric and push the type of sex that i
s female-pleasure centric into the territory of
“occasional treat,” we create a substantial imbalance.
There’s this stigma about eating girls out. Sometimes I’ll be eating dinner with some of my douchebag gay guy friends and they’ll be like, “Ew, vaginas are gross and slimy!” It really grinds my gears.
Like, I know we have a shared interest in the peen, OK, but that doesn’t mean you can insult my genitalia! That just makes getting eaten out even more stressful because sometimes my douchebag straight guy friends tell me that my genitalia are gross and slimy, too.
The only time it hasn’t been stressful for me is when I was in a loving relationship, but it took a long time for it to get to that point and then when it finally did, it was really not a loving relationship anymore.
Sorry for all the heteronormativity, btw. I only have experience being eaten out by men and feeling anxiety about being eaten out by men. Being eaten out by a woman is probably way different.
I have tried many times to imagine myself being eaten out by a woman, but I can’t do it. I want to be able to because I’m progressive and stuff, but I just can’t.
I’ve also tried to imagine myself eating a girl out because I like to be good at things and I bet I’d be good at it, but I can’t do that, either.
Anyway, I guess I should include some more substantial qualitative analysis. Um, let’s see. Being eaten out feels like your partner is scratching an itch you didn’t realize you had until he or she caressed it in delicate circles with his or her glorious tongue. Then it feels way better than that.
I don’t think being eaten out can really be painful. It would be pretty difficult for teeth to be involved, I think. Though I guess there could be a sucking issue? I have experienced that a couple of times, I guess.
My opinion on the matter of sucking is that it shouldn’t happen at all, but maybe some girls like that. Guys do it fairly often, but to me it feels like you’re going to rip my clit off. Not good. Ouch.
So, yeah. If you’re going to eat me out, don’t suck.
Cunnilingus [Make Her Come]
The last time I wrote about ‘going down’ and ‘box job’ I got into a lot of trouble. About a quarter of those who left comments took me to task for my word choice.
Hank wrote, “I think the term ‘box job’ is horrible because it takes away the slow sensuality that usually characterizes cunnilingus.”
Marisa added, “I sincerely hope the term ‘box job’ doesn’t catch on. I hate the word Box as a euphemism for vagina because there is nothing boxy whatsoever about my vagina or any vagina.”
Apologies to all. In future I’ll stick to cunnilingus!
Many young women can’t have an orgasm through traditional intercourse alone. More than 81% of women reach orgasm from receiving oral sex and 88% of married women prefer cunnilingus as their preferred sex act.
Cunnilingus is the way to send a woman to orgasm heaven. It comes with a guarantee.
But many young men don’t explore other options when they are going down on their women. They simply stick to one position and think that their ladies will enjoy their licks and orgasm easily.
Wrong. In order for a woman to enjoy cunnilingus, the session needs to be unpredictable. And the best way to make it unpredictable is to change from one cunnilingus position to another. Now, let me share with you some cunnilingus positions that you can try tonight:
Cunnilingus Position #1
On your face. This cunnilingus position gives the woman more control over the sensations she wants. You will lie down on your back and she straddles your face.
Other than giving her more control over the sensation she wants, this position also allows deeper tongue penetration, which will surely give her more pleasure.
Cunnilingus Position #2
The Doggy Style. The doggy cunnilingus position is very similar to the intercourse doggy position. In this position, she will go down on all fours and tilt her hips slightly towards the ceiling.
You will then lick her clitoris from behind. Remember to vary the pace of your stroke. Start off with slower strokes and gradually increase the pace once you see that she is fully aroused. Use all the cunnilingus techniques that you know (ABC’s, Sweeping, Suction, etc) to send her to orgasm heaven.
Cunnilingus Position #3:
Side by Side. In this position, the woman lies on her back and you lie on your side beside her. This position is good for mutual stimulation as she is able to stimulate you while receiving cunnilingus.
On top of this, while you are licking her clitoris, you can also use your hand or sex toys to give her additional stimulation.
Now you have 3 cunnilingus positions to play with. The next time you do down on her, don’t stick to one position anymore. Vary your cunnilingus positions to make the session more unpredictable so that she can orgasm easily.Keep it fresh!