Young Women Prefer Sexual Subtlety
As an adolescent girl, I have no trouble talking to other young women about sexual issues. I can speak for many of us. We want more than porn offers a majority of the time.
Teenage girls and young women are visual and auditory creatures. At minimum, we want the voice to match the expressions. They desire the mental stimulation and erotic story leading up to the sexual event.
We want to connect to what is going on in our mind and body. Erotica most often leaves something to the imagination. Think “9½ Weeks,” “Eyes Wide Shut” type movies.
They get your pulse going and your mind wanting to know and see more. It’s OK to leave us wanting to see more. Partners? You can pick up where the art leaves off.
Erotica moves us, creates a reaction and leaves a lasting impression. We will think about it long after it’s over. We will remember it as if we’d experienced it. That’s because it created an experience within.
Erotic art makes you stare, explore and fantasize. It makes you move your head trying to peer around the corners to see what isn’t shown. What I’m really getting at is subtlety. Not in-your-face fucking all the time.
Film and art makers should try to get into the minds of women, the primary people spending the cash these days, and see what turns us on and brings us back.
If you can stimulate our minds, touch our hearts and stir our bodies, you will have loyal fans. When we are moved, we will share. At our next girls night out, sewing circle, or board-room meeting, we will share with other women what we’ve discovered. Word of mouth is still the most powerful of all advertising.
We want the sexiest, most vibrant life. So when you touch upon things that get your juices flowing, the sex goddess within will awaken and you will be energized by her.
Embrace her. Tease her. Celebrate her. Whether it be through porn, erotica or music, find what turns you on to life and turn up the volume! Life is short. Keep the juices flowing!
Sexual Fantasies
Unsurprisingly, sexual fantasies are almost universal but vary by gender, age, sexual orientation, and society but there’s difficulty in measuring the frequency of types of fantasies.
In general, the most common fantasies for men and women are: reliving an exciting sexual experience, imagining sex with a current partner, and imagining sex with a different partner.
There is no consistent difference in the popularity of these three categories of fantasies. The next most common fantasies involve oral sex, sex in a romantic location, sexual power or an irresistible impulse, and forced sex.
Male fantasies tend to focus more on visual imagery and explicit anatomic detail, whereas women’s fantasies tend to contain more emotion and connection.
When compared with homosexual and heterosexual women, homosexual and heterosexual men are more interested in visual sexual stimulation and fantasies about casual sex encounters.
Another way the sexes differ is that men are much more likely to fantasize about having multiple sexual partners compared with women. The sexes also differ in terms of how much they fantasize about dominance and submission.
Men fantasize equally often about dominance and submission, whereas women fantasize about submission much more frequently than dominance.
Since numerous variables influence sexual fantasy, the differences between gender can be examined through multiple theoretical frameworks.
Social constructionism predicts that sexual socialization is a strong predictor of sexual fantasy and that gender differences are the result of social influences.
Sociobiology (also called evolutionary psychology or evolutionary theory) predicts that sexual fantasy is predisposed to biological factors.
For example, some studies have found that women prefer fantasizing about familiar lovers. A social constructionist explanation may say that this is because women are raised to be chaste and selective with men.
A sociobiological theory would claim that ancestral women preferred the reproductive security of having one partner, which is still ingrained in modern women.