Sex Drive

I Just Can’t Get Enough Sex

I Need a Lot of Sex

I’m single and I always want sex.
I masturbate every day. No man is safe.

I almost propositioned a cute
builder, I was so desperate!

Why is my sex drive never like
this when I’m in a relationship?

In a relationship your man is a real person with flaws.
He has desires of his own that he – or you – may think
are more important than yours.

The builder with the hot body is a fantasy.
Lovers don’t always ?t in with your idea of sexy.

Being single means your sex drive only depends on you.

Without a partner’s libido to consider, you’re
free to explore what you want.

Make his needs as important as yours and you
could have this kind of passion in a relationship.

I Just Can’t Get Enough from Ka Xiong on Vimeo.

No matter what I do I am never really sexually satisfied.
I can have sex and have an orgasim, but later that day
or the next day I want to have sex again.

It’s always been like this for me and all
I want and can think about is sex.

I have even thought about going to a sex class
to get help, but am afraid I will hook up with
some guys there and have sex with them.

I’m married and have been for going on 7 years,
but he is not into sex. He’s happy with every two weeks.

The sad part is, I get bitchy and pissed if I don’t get sex.

I seriously feel like a nymphomaniac! I’m five
months pregnant and I can’t get enough sex.

My husband obliges but I’m getting to the point
where I am asking him if it’s a drag on him.
He smirks and says no but I just have to wonder.

In the last 24 hours we had sex three times
but I could have made it 4 or 5.

I just kept teasing for him to not come near me.
I think all of that extra blood flow the orgasms
feel the best and make me want it more.

I also miss relaxing to a beer or two at the end of the day.
so a nice soothing orgasm fills that gap.

I know it might calm down in my third trimester
but I don’t remember being this wild about sex
with my other two pregnancies.

Do you think I need some extra cold showers?

Striptease from Evgeny Ignatov on Vimeo.

I can’t get enough sex around ovulation or during my period.

A woman’s sex drive is directly related to her hormone
levels. Estrogen can increase libido and its levels
are highest around ovulation.

During menstruation, women produce more
testosterone which can also stimulate sexual arousal.

Humans Don’t Know
When to Have Sex

In all animals except for humans, the desire for sex
is timed to correspond to the female’s ovulation.

Our inclination to have sex at any time during
the month or year is peculiarly human.

It separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom
and is, reproductively, extremely inefficient.

There’s only a very brief period of time, just a
matter of days during each month, in which
intercourse is likely to lead to pregnancy.

The timing of sex is thus very important if a
species is to have a very high fertility rate.

If intercourse doesn’t take place around the
time of ovulation, it is less likely to lead
to a pregnancy.

The difference between humans and all
other animals is that in humans, the
female is just as apt to accept the male
in a sexual act at any time during the month.

Most of the time, the human female has no
idea whether she is having sex at a time
of the month that is likely to lead to pregnancy.

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Teens and
Unfulfilled Sexual

Question: Why has God given teens such strong sexual drives and no healthy, acceptable way to satisfy it? This just doesn’t seem fair. In Biblical times people got married at a younger age.

As a result, it was normal to have sex and start raising kids before you reached the age of twenty. These days, much of society still frowns upon teenagers engaging in any kind of sexual activity. Why has God given us these feelings if we can’t do anything about them?

Answer: You’re very perceptive. You’ve also raised an excellent point. What you may not realize is that the problem you’ve identified is bigger and more broadly relevant than your question suggests.

Teens aren’t the only ones who are caught in the tension between sexual desires and sexual prohibitions. Single adults of all ages are in the very same boat.

Yes, we’ve all been given the gift of sexuality. Unfortunately, that doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re expected to enjoy it or actively cultivate it whenever we feel the urge. On the contrary, we’re supposed to steward it wisely. We’re supposed to learn how to exercise self-control.

According to God’s plan, there is only one appropriate context for sexual activity: marriage. We understand that this can be a hard truth to swallow. After all, some of us may never have the opportunity to marry. Until we are granted that opportunity, our obligation is clear.

We have to exercise sexual restraint. That means everyone-not just teenagers, but unmarried men and women at every age and stage of life. Even within marriage, husbands and wives are not necessarily authorized to engage in unbridled sexual indulgence. Instead, each partner must live by the rule of loving and disciplined regard for the other’s needs and wishes.

You’re right, of course, to insist that teens are at a special disadvantage. Because of educational and financial considerations, the option of marriage is virtually closed to them in contemporary culture.

What’s more, it’s closed to them at a time in life when sex hormones are particularly potent and sexual feelings are running especially high. In modern society, there’s a stretch of almost ten years between puberty and what our culture considers “marriageable” age.

And the problem is only getting worse: recent statistics indicate that the average age of marriage in the United States is now 28 for men and 26 for women. No wonder so many young adults seem to regard premarital sex as an inescapable “given.”

What you have to realize is that none of this has come about by God’s design. As you pointed out, there was a time, not so very long ago in some parts of the world, when people did get married and start raising a family while still in their teens. Mary, the mother of Jesus, was probably no more than 13 or 14 years old when she was betrothed to Joseph.

What has made this kind of arrangement impracticable in contemporary America is not the will of God nor the implications of Christian morality. On the contrary, it’s the result of a complicated web of social and cultural factors, financial considerations, technological innovations, educational requirements, career-oriented thinking, and occupational demands.

So what’s the answer? Hard to say. Unless you have a prospective spouse in mind, and unless the two of you are mature enough, wise enough, skilled enough, and educated enough to provide for your financial needs and set up housekeeping on your own, you have only one choice.

You have to go back to square one. You have to learn what it means to exercise sexual self-control-at least until you’re in a position to overcome these practical obstacles. In that sense, your situation is no different than that of any other single adult.

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