Hump & Grind
Moving generates more friction for your
genitals and allows you to find the
right spots for maximum stimulation.
How are you masturbating? For most women,
it’s too sensitive to rub directly on the clit.
If you slowly rub the hood (protective tissue
above it) you should start to feel better.
Some women rub a pillow between their legs.
If you’re with a partner you can
hump and grind [image above].
Moving the body relaxes out tension that’s
blocking pleasurable stimulation.
Activating the spine allows nerve signals to
travel to the brain, where they trigger arousal.
Moving can be a form of erotic communication,
helping your partner discover what’s most
pleasurable, begging you for more of it!
Hip Circles: Move your pelvis in a circular motion.
Play with going slow, feeling each part of the circle.
Then go faster, really shaking it up!
Hip Thrusts: Tilt your pelvis forward and back.
Again, start slowly to get a feel for the movement.
Then speed it up. Try adding breath: inhale as you pull
your pelvis back and exhale as you thrust forward!
Spinal Undulations: This is the most sophisticated
erotic movement but also the most important for
activating full body pleasure.
Undulations are wave like motions that
travel the entire length of your spine.
Start with a pelvic thrust and then let the
movement travel up your spine, ending only
when your head tilts back at the end of the wave.
Monogamy is society’s way of constraining female sexuality.
This constraint is unjust and prudish.
Society’s repression of female sexuality has reshaped women’s
desires and sex lives. Women’s sexuality is not the rational,
civilized and balancing force it’s so often made out to be.
It is base, animalistic and ravenous, everything
we’ve told ourselves about male sexuality.
Gaye & Get It On
More Hump and Grind
Dry sex. Tribadism. Dry humping. No matter
what you call it, the act of rubbing your vagina
against your partner’s leg, knee, erection, vagina
or other body parts deserves more respect and love
than most people give it.
Ditto for rubbing your vagina against sofa
ends, pillows, and other inanimate objects.)
I’m a woman and I prefer grinding.
But I’m not sure if it’s the same for men.
I would have said thrusting until my last girlfriend.
The grinding motion allowed our bodies to touch more
and it really made me appreciate full body contact.
Also, she seemed to enjoy it more, and
her body responded to increased stimulation.
Thrusting is great in positions where she’s facing away
but if we’re face to face, I’m inclined to grind.
Men Are Forever
College men [mostly jerks] use crass sexualized interactions as a diagnostic tool for sexual interest.
Grinding is a perfect example. A guy grabs a girl from behind and starts dancing with her, crotch to crotch. It’s a process so bizarre that it happens only in the dark.
Unwanted grinding and groping are low-level interactions that seem of little consequence, but they set a standard for hooking up that encourages physical boldness by men and poor communication by women.
Male jerks think girls are fundamentally indecisive and have to be physically told what they want is at the root of the “No means yes, yes means anal.
Then there’s dry humping. What the hell is it? And is it just something for sexually inexperienced high school kids? It’s pretty much the act of getting it on without actually getting it on — sex with clothes on.
I’ve heard it called outercourse, non-penetrative sex and “heavy petting.” I’d go ahead and say that grinding on the dance floor to ‘get low’ could even be considered dry-humping.
It’s actually possible to climax from dry humping. I know a lot of people who are fans of the fully-dressed horizontal mambo and don’t mind keeping their clothes on for a night.