Mixed Sex Symbols: Sexual Penetration Rape.
How Many Ways Can a Woman Orgasm?
Indulge in Sex. Why Go to the Gym?
Stay at Home & Fuck. Condoms.
Sexual Penetration Rape
Since 1929, rape was defined as the carnal knowledge
of a female, forcibly and against her will.
The revised definition covers any gender of victim
or attacker and includes instances in which the
victim is incapable of giving consent because of
the influence of drugs or alcohol or because of age.
Physical resistance is not required.
Rape is the penetration, no matter how slight,
of the vagina or anus with any body part or object,
without the consent of the victim.
Also constituting rape under the new definition is oral
penetration by a sex organ of another person without consent.
How Many Ways
Can a Woman Orgasm?
Indulge in Sex
An orgasm a day
keeps the doctor away
If you have sex at least twice a week,
you’ll have more of the good stuff that
fights off bad germs and viruses.
Apparently, rigorous sex is best.
Go strap on your cowboy boots, because
things are about to get rowdy!
Not only will sex help you stay cold-free,
regular sex has also been shown to lower
prostate cancer levels in men, and improve
joint function.
A joint lubricating hormone is released
during foreplay and orgasm, which helps
keep joints flexible and healthy.
But don’t worry chicks, there’s something
in it for you too! Studies have shown that
women who orgasm on a regular basis tend
to have shorter and less painful menstrual
periods—as if you needed another reason
to pounce on your partner.
By releasing those feel-good chemicals in
our bodies during a good love making session,
we actually give ourselves a boost to stay
healthy and function better.
That way, we can save our sick days for
playing hooky with our lover instead of
nursing a bad cold.
Why Go to the Gym?
Stay at home & Fuck
Daily exercise is an important part of staying
healthy, both mentally and physically, but did
you know you can burn up to five calories
a minute having sex?
Not only can you get exercise, by rolling around
naked with your lover, but the longer you last,
the more calories we burn—so let it burn.
Start slowly, let your fire build, until you
can’t take it any longer and then breathe
some more. Sex isn’t about the finish line,
but how you choose to get there. Take the slow
road—your lover and your health will thank you.
Sex raises your heart rate and actually counts
as exercise, especially if you incorporate a
few yoga poses into it like the Reverse Cowgirl.
Either way, not many other forms of exercise
involve an orgasm, so why not skip the gym
tonight and go work out with your lover instead?
Indulge Yourself from operatornasvadbe on Vimeo.
Can You
Handle It?
If you’re considering visiting a sex cub, being prepared is key if you don’t want your first time to be a disaster.
Ground Rules. Before stepping foot in a club — especially if you’re going with a significant other — know your limits. A few weeks before my first swing club outing, The guy behind Polyamorously Perverse stressed to me the importance of knowing what you can and can’t handle.
“It’s one thing to imagine it, and it’s another to actually confront it,” he warned. “If you and your boyfriend are at a swingers club with another couple, and she puts his cock in her mouth, are you going to freak out?” Point taken.Just Say No.
You’re never under any obligation to participate at a swing club, no apologies or excuses necessary. If someone you’re not into approaches you, a polite “no thank you” will get the message across. If that sounds too curt, explain that it’s your first time and you’re just there to watch.
Don’t Give Mixed Signals. Girls, if you’re at a swing club alone, make sure you don’t tack on a “maybe later,” if you’re not interested. You’ll regret it three hours later, when his hand is still on your ass.
Always Ask First. Before joining anyone that’s already fooling around, make sure they’re aware of your intentions. A simple “May I?” will suffice.
But don’t just barge in there—wait for the right moment. If you have your eye on someone and they’re mid-multiple orgasm, hold off.
Dress To Impress. This isn’t your annual office Christmas party, so don’t be afraid to let a little leg show. Guys, a nice dress shirt paired with slacks (or nice jeans, if the club allows it) is standard.
Looking to make more of a fashion statement? Get creative with your underwear. If there’s ever a time to break out the red silk boxers, this is it.
Girls, keep the denim at home and slip into the slinkiest dress you own (bra and panties optional), and top it off with a pair of heels.
If you’re wearing lingerie, make sure it’s not comically difficult to take off. And keep it sexy with a garter belt and stockings instead of control-top pantyhose.
Adhere To Your Club’s Naked Rule. Every club is different, but you can expect to find a buffet, a bar, porn playing on a TV, couches, and a few playrooms.
The playrooms are usually where the action happens, though you’re likely to see couples fooling around all over the club. But some clubs have a naked rule for the playrooms even if you’re not participating, so don’t be the fully-clothed creepster just leering.
Be Friendly. There’s no need to strip and start going at it as soon as you walk in the door. Most swing clubs have a buffet and a BYOB alcohol policy (they provide the drink mixers), so grab a glass of wine and a few snacks, and take a seat.
Make sure to ask other swingers what their favorite clubs are—you’ll get great tips on the best nights to find what you’re looking for, whether it’s a huge party or a smaller, intimate event.
Be Safe. Bring more condoms than you think you’ll need, and if you have a funky looking “pimple” on your junk, get thee to a doctor, not a sex club.
Condoms & Lubricants
There’s this commonly held belief that condom use
makes sex feel less natural or pleasurable.pretty good.
Ratings of sex were high, with few differences based
on condom or lubricant use. No significant differences
were found in men’s ability to have erections with or
without condoms or lubricants.
Why do condoms seem to get such a bad rap? There’s obviously
a power element at play, or everybody would be using a condom.
It’s a macho thing: You take care of it, you’re my possession.
However, it’s a myth that men hate to use condoms.
Lots and lots of men like them. The women who don’t
like them feel it decreases sensation and sensitivity.
Porn Star Belladonna Talks About Condom Use in Porn from alison hart on Vimeo.
Lubricants also are underestimated for their ability to improve sex. And women of any age may misinterpret the need to use a lubricant as an indication of non-arousal.
I knew a 26-year-old woman who said she dreaded pulling out lubricant. She said there needs to be a website that says, ‘Younger women need lubricant, too.’
Women who experience vaginal dryness after menopause can also feel frustrated, seeing the need for a lubricant as a sad sign of aging.
One-third of American women experience the need for lubricants. In the last five to seven years on TV, lubes are talked about as often necessary to increase pleasure and excitement.
Participants in a study were asked to report on their most recent sexual event in the last year and the behavior associated with it, such as performing or receiving oral sex, and vaginal and anal intercourse.
They were also asked information about their partners, including gender, and whether the other person was a spouse or domestic partner, girlfriend or boyfriend, friend, new acquaintance or ‘transactional sex partner (prostitute).
Another question was about condom use, including type (latex, polyurethane, or other) and whether the condom was lubricated. Also, if lubrication was used, the type and where it was applied.
They had rate their most recent sexual event in terms of their perceptions of pleasure, arousal and whether they or their partner experienced orgasm.