Uninhibited Sex
‘Screwing around’ is no longer taboo.
Your average woman welcomes a one-night
stand with a complete stranger.
So long as the man she’s sleeping with
is magnificent in the sack, and she’s
the one to initiate the single night
of wildly uninhibited sex.
In other words, she needs to be horny as fuck
and banging a man who knows how to get her off.
Big Bang Pleasure
Not all of the free Love movements focused exclusively on women.
They all succeeded in eroding the rigid mindset of a patriarchal
society by the removing the sexual and social constraints which
were placed almost exclusively on women.
They broadened the minds of both men and women and
planted the seeds of the concept of women as owners
of their sexuality and masters of their destiny.
Sure, more women are getting their rocks off without
feeling the sting of shame or moral judgment.
Yet a quarter of them didn’t orgasm the last time
they had sex, a strike rate that might be seen as
encouraging except that figure has hardly budged in 10 years.
Fewer than half of all women said they had masturbated
in the past year. For girls aged between 16 and 19.
the figure falls to 30 per cent.
Pornhub, which commissioned ‘The Pleasure Principle’
and Maccarone, which is hosting it, are described
in their exhibition text as spaces of “uninhibited
sexual content” and “unfettered artistic expression’.
Spaces in which one can be free. Like SPEX they’re sites
which curate other people’s content.
Why are so many women
unhappy with their sex lives?
What they can do about it? A landmark study found
over 40% of women surveyed experienced sexual dysfunction.
The inability to feel satisfied by sex.
The Pleasure Principle highlights how
desire and the mind are linked for women.
Pleasure is inextricable from our social
status, compressed and constrained by many
factors, including safety and objectification.
We need to remove these barriers and experience sex
with the freedom, expression, range and truth.
Women can take charge and reignite their libidos.
Turn Me On [Electrosex]
Electrosex is a sexual practice involving
the application of electrical stimulation
to the nerves of the body, particularly
the genitals, for purposes of sexual stimulation.
When I first heard about applying electricity to
your naked body during sex, my first thought was
‘OMG why would you do that?! That’s dangerous!’
Now I have completely changed my mind: the idea
of turning you and your partner into a shared unit
of weird, romantic, sexy tingles is far out.
Welcome to “erotic electrostimulation”, sometimes
known as “electroplay” or “electrosex”.
The sensation–a shivering, tingly tickle,
is wholly different from that of a vibrator
or any other everyday sex toy.
The human nervous system operates via tiny
electrical signals. These toys just tap into
that natural biological currency by stimulating
the networks that already course throughout
your body, triggering powerful sensory outputs,
putting the “charge” into “discharge,” so to speak.
Call Me Slut Turn-on
Slut Pride
I get called a slut all the time. My best friend calls me a slut like it’s my name: “Slut!” Our staff call each other sluts when we divulge our sexual escapades.
Internet commenting trolls call me a slut fairly regularly (and a “bitch”, cunt and plenty of other names. I call myself a slut, like, say, last week when I hooked up with a dude on the first date.
A lot of young women are used to being called a slut in some area of their lives, in every situation from “haha, just kidding” with our friends or (cool) co-workers to more serious areas, like when it’s hurled at us by a cat caller.
“Slut” is one of those female-centric words like bitch, or feminist that can mean so many things that it almost means nothing anymore. Except, it turns out, in bed.
My brain is my biggest sex organ. As much as I love the tactile and the tangible, the easiest way to turn me on is to whisper really filthy words in my ear, give me an erotic story to read, or talk dirty.
For as politically correct as I may be outside of the bedroom, nothing offends me in coitus. Modifiers to those words are fine, too: ignorant slut, lazy slut, spoiled slut. The more creative the better!
But I mentioned to some friends how hot it is when guys talk dirty to me and it turns out some women really, really hate it.
One friend said she didn’t mind being called “naughty” or “bad” in bed, “there’s something about the word slut in particular that might take me out of the moment.”
In other words, dirty talk is OK but the word “slut” is going too far. Another friend said she would never want to be called a “slut” in bed or any other type of dirty talk involving curse words. “I’m very sensitive to words,” she explained.
And still another friend said it would really bother her if a boyfriend called her a “slut” in bed, but she used to hook up with a guy she didn’t have feelings for who called her a “slut” (in edition to other dirty talk) and she was fine with it.
The only problem, she said, is “he basically couldn’t come unless he was stringing together a thousand different filthy words,” she said. “It got old after awhile.”
Could it be that some women are so used to the disrespectful, belittling connotations of “slut” outside of the bedroom that it’s unpalatable for them to hear it inside the bedroom?
Is it impossible for some women to take words that would sting if used in real life and turn them upside down in fantasy play? Why, then, am I OK with it?
Knowing what’s wrong/forbidden/outre ultimately makes me more attracted to it and in turn, it turns me on. Sometimes I wonder if the more taboo something is, the more sexual it becomes to me.
Even if I don’t exactly know what the definition of “slut” means anymore, I know I’m not one and I know I am one in just the right doses that it gets me all worked up when a man whispers it to me. (Of course, it has to come in the right packaging.)
I don’t know why I’m wired this way. All I know is I am wired this way and when it comes to dirty talk in bed that would be inappropriate in many occasions out of bed, I’m apparently in the minority. Though given how much it turns me on, I can’t imagine why!
Ladies, do you like being called a slut in bed? Why or why not? And gentlemen, have you ever called a woman a slut in bed? What happened? If you’ve never said it before, why haven’t you?
I’ve come to terms with my need for strong, sexually dominant men who are feminists outside the bedroom for but have a taste for BDSM in it.
For years during my 20s, though, I felt ashamed by the incongruity of my submissive sexual desires/spanking paraphilia and my intellectual feminist beliefs.
Sensitive to how judgmental feminists can be about dom-sub dynamics, I till have a lot of issues for being wired this way.