That’s My Girl
Coquette: a woman who flirts lightheartedly with
men to win their admiration and affection.
Flirt: a man or woman who sexually provokes.
In many countries it’s seen as the start of foreplay.
Flirting or coquetry is a social and sometimes sexual signal
involving verbal or written communication, as well as body language,
by one person to another, either to suggest interest in a deeper
relationship with the other person, or if done playfully, for amusement.
In most cultures, it is socially disapproved for a person to make explicit
sexual advances in public, or in private to someone not romantically
acquainted, but indirect or suggestive advances (i.e. flirting)
may at times be considered acceptable.
Flirting usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests
a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the
parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette,
which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest
in the given setting.
She takes me
half the way there
Sexual teasing is a form of provocation characterized
by the promise of sexual contact followed by withdrawal.
The intention is to frustrate or cause tension
in the target and incorporates some use of
power of one person over another.
This form of interaction between individuals has
received little research attention.
A total of 742 undergraduate university students
(143 men, 599 women) provided reports regarding
whether they had ever engaged in sexual teasing.
Those who had were asked about the motives behind
this behavior, the type of relationship and sexual
history with the target, and the reactions
and outcomes associated with these interactions.
Sexual teasing was relatively common among both
women and men, although women were significantly
more likely to report having engaged in sexual
teasing at least once in the past.
arousal or a sexual
In dating and the interpersonal dance that precedes
sex communication is often indirect and ambiguous,
what we call flirting or teasing.
In flirting, implied interest in the other person is
sincere and involves the real possibility of a sexual
relationship. In teasing, the intent is insincere.
The teaser uses personal charm (words, jokes, gestures,
touch) to excite the other, exerting power over that person,
but all the recipient gets is confusion and frustration.
Men and women generally have similar motives for
teasing: “I wanted to make the person want me
sexually. I wanted to see how much they wanted me.”
But women were considerably more likely than men
to say: “I wanted to feel attractive and/or desirable.
I wanted to feel in control, powerful.
I didn’t want to seem too “easy” by having sex right
away. I was scared of being pressured into sex, so
I did it to buy some time, to look for an out.”
Men were considerably more likely to say: “I wanted
to turn myself on. I wanted to see how far I could
get. I did it as a joke or on a dare or bet. I wanted
to have something to tell my friends later.”
Is dressing sexily a provocation to men? When they then stare at
a woman’s assets and show interest, why do women get offended?
Some, in work environments, go to the extent of suing for sexual
harassment and insist choice of dress is irrelevant.
The cock-teaser gives hope, but never gratification.
It’s the attention she craves, feeding her self-esteem.
She’ll cock-tease to pit men against each other,
while enjoying the pleasure of the attention of
her admirers whom she’ll mercilessly play with
or even exploit for her aims.
Because she is a teaser. Almost all girls flirt a little.
It’s the natural thing to do. But a girl who is a teaser
is not content with simple, wholesome flirting.
She goes out of her way to bait boys with an
obvious display of her physical charms.
She baits them with unspoken promises she
hasn’t the slights intention of fulfilling.
She’s simply playing a game in which
she holds all the cards and doesn’t
mind resorting to cheap tricks.
Girls on Heat
If your girlfriend starts dreamily talking about
bone structure and ogling tall, handsome strangers,
there is an explanation – she might be on heat.
But these frisky females aren’t looking for sex
just to have a good time: the priority during
the most fertile phase of their menstrual
cycle is to find ‘good genes’.
Most female mammals have a hormone-induced
oestrus or ‘heat’ but humans were not thought to
have it and were not considered to be aware of
when they were most likely to conceive.
Women don’t miaow and they don’t scratch
at the door but they do have oestrus.
It doesn’t just boost sexual desire.
It functions to get good genes.