Are we prepared to go over the
edge, risk losing ourselves in
uncontrollable sexual urges?
Are we willing to abandon the safety net?
We crave the mysterious, unknown,
elusive and sublime. We want to be
carried away by the ecstatic.
Erotic abandonment knows no reason.
It refuses to respond to caution,
analysis and consequences.
Erotic desire is poetry, not didactics.
Those who attempt to subordinate the laws
of the erotic self to those of the social
self are doomed to failure.
The erotic zone is a creative territory
in which fantasy is a central actor.
Creativity and fantasy need maximum freedom
of expression and movement. We recognize an
artist whose work reflects the government’s
policy is a conscripted artist.
Do you want to be a conscripted sexual being?
Tied to puritanical, missionary rules?
Let yourself go. Sex is abandonment.
A female friend has started a conversation
with me about porn. She’s trying to figure
out what she thinks about it, and wanted
to hear my thoughts.
Among other things, I explained that while
I do look at porn, I dislike the sperm-gargling,
gaping-asshole, piss-drinking mentality that
characterizes a lot of mainstream porn these days.
I’d like to see more stuff that approaches
sex as the beautiful thing it really is.
I’m not out to sway her opinion one way or the
other, but I would like to show her the best
that porn has to offer, if only to demonstrate
that it doesn’t have to be crude.
Sublime sex entails complete and total
immersion in the present moment.
Sublime Sex
Great sex requires the partners
to be in it all the way.
They can’t become spectators of their
own performance, judges or critics.
They can’t be groggy, distracted, or absent-minded.
Full presence in the moment is the most important
component of sublime sex according to these data.
In great sex, the past is gone, the future is absent,
the outside world ceases.