The ’90s and early 2000s had a lot of weird mixed
messages about teenage sexuality. There was an
acknowledgment that yes, teenagers did have sex
and removing sex and sexuality would ring false.
Yet the moral politics of the time required some
sort of punishment for sex or an emotional conflict.
Back in the ’90s one of the biggest couples on television
was Dylan McKay and Brenda Walsh on Beverly Hills 90210.
Their romance was as epic as two beautiful white
heterosexual teenagers at that time could be.
Even though Dylan was very much a jerk and would
take out all his sad-boy crap on Brenda, the two
did have crazy intense chemistry.
That passion and chemistry reached its apex
in “Spring Dance” when they finally had sex
together in a hotel room that Dylan got them.
Brenda tells Dylan that she’s lucky because
“how many girls get to have sex for the first
time with someone they love?”
Brenda had sex and didn’t have any regrets
or guilt over it. Until the next episode
when Brenda and Dylan broke up dramatically.
At the time a lot of viewers were shocked by
this because it seemed to have come out of nowhere.
According to Aaron Spelling, the reason was censorship.
The FCC decided that a teenage girl couldn’t
be happy about having sex for the first time.
Despite some push-back from the writers’ room, they
relented and the Brenda/Dylan affair was finished..
“I was really surprised by the outcry.
I think what the censors were most upset
about was that she was happy afterwards.
I had to write the first episode coming
back in the Summer where she thought she
was pregnant, and she had to break
up with Dylan, which was really tough.”
Sex Lust Impulse
Teenage Sex Facts
Among sexually experienced teens, 70% of females and 56% of males report that their first sexual experience was with a steady partner. 16% of females and 28% of males report first having sex with someone they had just met or who was just a friend.
Teen sex is increasingly likely to be described as voluntary. In 2006–2010, first sex was described as “unwanted” by 11% of young women aged 18–24 who had had sex before age 20, compared with13% in 2002. For young men in the same age-group, the share reporting first sex as unwanted decreased from 10% to 5%.
Teens in the United States and Europe have similar levels of sexual activity. However, European teens are more likely than U.S. teens to use contraceptives generally and to use the most effective methods; they therefore have substantially lower pregnancy rates.
People are so afraid of their own sexual impulses. They feel so guilty, They’re so freaked out by the complete failure of monogamy to satisfy their sexual urges.
Through hypocritical prudery, we’ve successfully converted a need called sex into a greed called lust.
We’ve done this by making sex taboo. A father asked, “What did you have in school today, son?” “A lecture on sex.” “What did they say?”
“First the priest told us why we shouldn’t. Then the doctor explained how we shouldn’t. Finally the principal warned us about where we shouldn’t.”
The result? Sex is the subject of far too many lurid fantasies. In reality, sex is only nature’s greeting call.
The Dean of a college, in her introductory talk was preaching abstinence. She said, “When tempted, ask yourself, “Is an hour of pleasure worth a lifetime of shame?” A lone hand went up – “How can we make it last an hour?”
And then, we’re obsessed with the youth’s obsession with sex. As if we knew nothing of it when we were young! A middle-aged woman moaned about her daughter’s wayward ways to her mother.
“I blame it on cars!” she said, “Look how far they can go for a date or drive. It wasn’t that way once, was it, mother?” The eighty-seven-year-old tartly responded, “We certainly went as far as we could!”
Worse than complaints is our duplicity – acting coy, while simultaneously being self-indulgent. The father was stern. “Son, don’t visit nightclubs.” “Why?” “You’ll see things you shouldn’t.” At the first opportunity, the lad visited a club. And saw…his father.
People are so afraid of their own sexual impulses, people feel so guilty, and people are so freaked out by the complete failure of monogamy to deliver what they desperately need emotionally.
We’re looking at people who are desperately frightened and lonely and sad and upset about their own sexual impulses and they’re turning to any place they can find to comfort themselves.
Foreplay is an appetizer before the main course.
When you connect with your partner before sex,
it makes the moment better and more satisfying for you both.
What is the best foreplay to rouse your man?
Getting intimate with your partner is more
than taking off all your clothes, bumping and
grinding until one or both of you orgasm.
Shenseea’s highly explicit song Foreplay
recently premiered on Youtube. Although it’s a
less raunchy yet tempting composition it still
left fans stunned and a lot of jaws dropping low.
There is no question about it; the very Blessed bombshell
upped her game with the release of this new video.
It should have the guys in the barbershops talking
for a long time. She puts on an unforgettable
performance to support the lyrics to the song (Foreplay).
Strutting around in white racy lingerie, suggestively
dancing and working the bedroom and especially utilising
the bathtub and faucet like you’ve never seen.
Half an hour is the perhaps surprisingly lengthy amount of time
a man needs to woo his wife or girlfriend into bed.
Stage one begins with the moment he first thinks he might
like to have sex. This lasts an average of 14 minutes.
Stage two – by which time the couple have decided to have sex –
lasts about seven minutes, while they undress, empty bladders,
brush their teeth and other nervous tics all of us have.
Stage three is foreplay, lasting an average of ten
minutes before the beginning of intercourse.
How to Seduce
I hope you’re a teenager yourself, or else this
is a creepy question. But no matter who you are,
there’s only one true answer: Practice.
Pay attention to what she says and does and compliment
her on something unusual (“the pretty girl” rarely hears
shes clever, and “the clever girl” hears she’s pretty.
If you tell her that she is, it makes her day. If you
notice something special, compliment that. Just as
long as you don’t sound creepy
Be yourself (yea I know you’re probably
sick of this one, deal with it)
If you must use a pick-up line, make It very clear
that it’s ironic because they’re hilarious if you’re
joking but if you’re serious it’s like weird.
Dress nicely and wash yourself (if you don’t do this
there’s no point flirting, game already over mate).
Also good hair is useful for flipping and running hands through.
Flirting Is Foreplay
Comment on what she’s saying so she knows you aren’t just zoning out and/or staring at her tits (don’t do that, creeps are a definite holy-shit-this-guy-is-going-to-rape-me-help vibe) and seem genuinely interested.
Be the classy gentleman. think through comments and take all opportunities to be one smooth motherfucker.
You see someone from across the room and think: I want to meet him/her. How can you be sure that your body language conveys your true intentions? How do you start to flirt?
These body language cues are excellent ways to show the object of your interest that you’d like to get to know them better. If someone uses these cues on you? Flirt right back. Flirting is one of the finest pleasures in life.
How To Flirt With Your Eyes
Holding eye contact with someone you find appealing for approximately five seconds is highly effective The person initiating the flirt will, on average, need to lock eyes three times before the flirt recipient catches on.
How To Flirt By Preening
There are many, many ways one groom themselves in public in a flattering yet flirty way, depending on your gender. Women can try some hair stroking, posture enhancing, neck exposing, hip tilting (if standing), clothes straightening or lip licking. All of which calls attention to her attractiveness.
Men can also straighten their clothing, lick their lips or fix their hair, but they should also include things like hooking their fingers into their pants (if standing), suck in their stomach, or take deep breaths to increase the size of their chest.
For both young men and women, try to use preening body language that shows off your best features while enhancing what makes you, you.
How To Flirt With A Smile
There are few things better than receiving a genuine, radiant smile from a stranger, yet many people don’t respond to them as a flirt tactic.
Use your smile in conjunction with the other body language to ensure whomever you’ve got your eye on realizes a flirt is your intention.
How To Flirt By Pointing
Try to ‘point’ at the person you want to flirt with by moving your body towards them. Take your feet and make sure they are facing your flirt target, and use your shoulders to lean into them – even if you aren’t speaking with them.
Other ideas include facing your shoulders towards them or ‘closing off’ a space just for the two of you (such as crossing your legs towards each other).
How To Flirt Using Touch
Look for opportunities where you can touch the person you want to flirt with, either ‘accidentally’ or otherwise.
Shaking hands is an excellent flirt tactic, because it place your hands together (which conveys a higher level of intimacy].
You could also try carefully and casually placing your hands on the person’s arms to very gently ‘move’ them so you can pass by on your way to the bathroom, or lightly tap their arm while sharing a laugh. Good flirting!