She Brings out
the Beast in Me
To have an orgasm you need to let yourself go.
Clear your mind. Don’t try to control your body.
You can’t worry about how you look when you climax.
Or what sounds come out of your mouth or body.
Don’t worry. Sex is all about losing your inhibitions.
Let your body do whatever it wants to do. Go with the flow.
The joy of spontaneous sex! just the phrase conjures
images of youth, tropical holidays, cocktails by the
beach and random acts of lust in the back of cars.
The longing many of us have for spontaneous sex
is not so much the idea that we’re just walking
down the street and BAM, there we are having sex
on gritty, grubby terrain. Rather experience
the abandon we long for, the feeling of recklessness.
Spontaneous sex is the stuff of la la land. We see this
all the time in movies where couples come together with
equal passions at exactly the same time.
They move onto equal unbelievable pleasure, ending with
cuddling sighs, cigarettes, talk of giving it all up and
running away to Paris.
The reality is that the logistics are usually more difficult
to navigate, the end-result less balanced and blissful.
The frisky partner at 11 p.m. is met with the snoring partner
who went to bed at 9 p.m. because he has to get up at 5 a.m.
Or the mutual desire is there, but the kids haven’t still
settled down and can be heard roaming somewhere in the house,
keeping both partners on alert.
Or early morning seems to be a good time, but someone
oversleeps, there’s the train to catch to work, it’s a rush.
This doesn’t mean that things never happen.
The snoring partner can be enticed to wake up
and get into it, maybe knowing there’s a price to
pay in the morning> Fuck it. Let’s have a quickie.
These moments are not bad—you feel connected, the oxytocin
gets kicked up for a while—but is it like the movies, or
those real-life-top-ten memorial nights? Nothing like.
You hit a 5/6 on the 10-point scale. Good enough.
Tips for a Quickie
Sex is the perfect cure for stress and frustration. Furthermore, an orgasm can reduce blood pressure and have a sedative and relaxing effect. A well-directed quickie could be the perfect medicine for you.
How he thrusts can make or break a successful session. Take the lead by getting on top, and move in circles rather than up and down.
This will keep as much of the base of his penis in contact with you as possible. Short and shallow thrusts, rather than deep and fast, can quickly induce an intense orgasm.
Practice Mindful Sex
Thinking too much during sex can greatly reduce the chances of having an orgasm. This is where practicing mindful sex can really help you relax into a pleasurable orgasm.”
Start by focusing on your breathing rather than on your thoughts. Every time your mind drifts away, bring your focus back to your breathing or anything that is happening in the present moment and the feelings of pleasure. This will help you relax, enjoy the moment and achieve orgasm.
Try finding your lesser-known road to orgasm. Explore deeper inside the vagina than the g-spot, just above your cervix at the innermost point of the vagina.
Pressure on this spot can instantly stimulate you and rapidly yield intense orgasmic contractions. This tactic might even facilitate the elusive female ejaculation.