Ultimate Foreplay
Start massaging her vagina with
your fingers but apply some lube to
moisturise the skin and remove friction.
By touching and stimulating different
parts of the vaginal mound and the
clitoris you can find the right spot.
Intensified moans and breathing will
let you know you’ve found it.
Sexual Arousal
in Females
Slippery When Wet
She’s Wet down There
Does Anybody Care?
During initial sexual stimulation there’s an increased
watery secretion which is produced to cause better lubrication.
This increase is caused due to constriction of the vaginal
walls and congestion and engorgement of the vaginal walls.
Due to increase in pooling of blood, watery secretion seeps
in and these collect in the vagina and flow out into the vulva.
Wet Panties
A Woman’s Arousal
to Gratification
Are You Engorged Yet?
There are various stages of physical response during arousal and sex. Researchers have identified four stages of sexual response: arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution. This is what happens in your body when you’re sexually aroused.
- Stage 1: excitement or arousal
When a woman becomes aroused, the blood vessels in her genitals dilate. There is increased blood flow in the vaginal walls, resulting in fluid passing through them. This is the main source of lubrication, which makes the vagina wet.
Her external genitalia or vulva (including the clitoris, vaginal opening, and inner and outer lips or labia) become engorged (swollen) due to the increased blood supply. Inside her body, the top of the vagina expands.
Her pulse and breathing quicken, and her blood pressure rises. She may become flushed, especially on her chest and neck, due to her blood vessels dilating.
- Stage 2: plateau
Blood flow to the lower third of the vagina reaches its limit, and causes the lower area of the vagina to become swollen and firm. This is called the introitus, sometimes known as the orgasmic platform, and it undergoes rhythmic contractions during orgasm.
The woman’s breasts may increase in size by up to 25%, and blood flow to the area around the nipple (the areola) increases, making the nipples look less erect.
As she gets closer to orgasm, her clitoris pulls back against the pubic bone and seems to disappear. A woman needs continuous stimulation in this phase to build up enough sexual excitement for orgasm.
- Stage 3: orgasm
Orgasm is the intense and pleasurable release of sexual tension that has built up in the earlier stages, characterised by contractions (0.8 seconds apart) of the genital muscles, including the introitus.
Most women don’t experience the recovery period that men do after an orgasm. A woman may have another orgasm if she’s stimulated again.
Not all women have an orgasm every time they have sex. Foreplay is an important role in orgasm occurring in most women. It can include stroking erogenous zones and stimulating the clitoris.
- Stage 4: resolution
This is when the woman’s body slowly returns to its normal state. Swelling reduces, and breathing and heart rate slow down.
There’s more to sex than penetration
If you ask people what makes a satisfying sex life, they usually say it’s about penetrative sex and orgasms. But this isn’t necessarily what sex and intimacy is all about.
Enjoy all the feelings of arousal with your partner, not just the orgasm. Take time to be more sensual.
Explore each other’s bodies.
Bathe together.
Massage.
Kiss.
Touch each other’s skin.
Undress each other.
Tell each other what you like.
Listen to your partner’s breathing and the sounds they make.
Many people give each other oral sex or masturbate together as a healthy and enjoyable part of their sex life.
If you’re not sure how to suggest something new, try saying, ‘I enjoy it when we make love, and I wondered how you might feel about trying…’.
Find out what you like
Even if you think you know what you like when it comes to sex, it’s worth exploring a bit more.
It’s surprising how little people know about their own body and their partner’s body, and their likes and dislikes. Ask yourself what you might like more (or less) of, and what you can give to your partner.
Get to know your body and what feels good. Lie in a warm bath and explore your body. Think about how the water feels on your skin, and relax while enjoying the sensation. Find out what you like through masturbation, then share this with your partner.
Faking Male Orgasm
Sometimes Men
Pretend to Orgasm
Pop culture would have us believe that women are more likely to fake orgasms, but a new survey suggests otherwise.
Of 1,080 men polled, divorcés were 67 percent more likely to admit to faking an orgasm than men who have never been married. Divorced men were 25 percent more likely to have faked an orgasm than married men, but married men are 33 percent more likely to have faked an orgasm than single men.
Age also played a role. Men who fall in the 25-34 age range were the most likely to admit to faking it, with 33 percent reporting they had pretended to reach the big O. Only 12 percent of respondents in the 18-24 age range admitted to faking it, and 16 percent in the over 65 age range.
it Happened to Me
There was nothing wrong with her. She was not to blame.
She was the apotheosis of lust. I wanted her. I needed her.
It’s just that this time I couldn’t orgasm.
Yes, I loved sex, and yes, I loved her, but my body
wasn’t cooperating.
It’s just wasn’t going to happen that night.
It had nothing to do with how I felt about her.
She had no reason to feel inadequate.
I repeated the sentiments above to her for two hours.
I did it while naked, sweaty, and lying next to her
existential crisis. Young and dumb, I believed honesty
was the easiest policy.
I underestimated the alacrity with which my partner
would adopt my malfunction as her own.
To her, a man’s orgasm was a simple machine. To not s
uccessfully “operate” such a thing felt like the
cruelest sleight to her femininity.
Obviously, this was not the truth. Unfortunately,
the truth rarely has a place with young lovers.
I vowed to never repeat such an ordeal.
But to keep that promise, I knew sometimes
I’d have to fake it. Here’s what I did…
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1. Wear a rubber.
It’s hard to tell what does or doesn’t come out of your penis while it’s shrouded in latex.
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2. Announce the orgasm.
Be sure declarations reflect the orgasm you would have if you could have it. Oh God, I’m gonna come! or I’m coming! I’m coming! Don’t oversell it with melodrama.
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3. Go through the motions.
While thrusting, make some noise – not like a party person,
but like the wounded beast you’re pretending to be.
Advanced move: If you’re fit, throw a few Kegel pulses i
n there. But never simultaneously pulse and moan
– a real orgasm isn’t syncopated.
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4. You just faked an orgasm, pretend to be spent.
She’ll expect some irregular breathing patterns.
I had a fondness for the stutter breath as it
combined the stoicism of a strong inhale with
a vulnerable exhale, but a dogged pant will do.
The focus on breathing should leave you relaxed
(read as flaccid). As you pull out, wince and
slightly groan to simulate appropriate penis sensitivity.
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5. Dispose of the condom and the proof.
Luckily, most partners will not insist on watching
the awkward peel of a used condom from your soft cock.
If she runs to the wastebasket to check, just get
the hell out of there.
That’s the sign of a much larger issue.
If not, bully for you, you fucking liar.