Women Like to
Experiment in Bed
Women are more experimental in bed.
They’re more likely to talk dirty
and share fantasies with their partners.
Women may enjoy sex with the lights on,
wearing sexy lingerie, having sex in
different areas of the home and using
lubricants, but increasingly want
to go further in the bedroom.
Being sexually adventurous is, perhaps unsurprisingly,
linked to the sexual satisfaction of both partners.
So much so that the more open-minded and repeatedly
adventurous the couple, the longer the relationship lasted.
Women are increasingly bored in their relationships
with men, despite being more sexually satisfied.
More men fake orgasm than previously believed.
As women grow older, they climax more regularly
and with more ‘quality.’
One thing both sexes agree upon is their shared
enjoyment of orgasm but simultaneous climaxes
are far rarer than we think.
Media images show and reinforce
simultaneous orgasm as the best,
ultimate, or ideal way for
sexual experiences to culminate,
and some people agree.
In reality, it’s not, nor does it have to be,
the gold standard. People do not need to strive
for this experience, either. Sexual experiences
and orgasms, no matter when/whether/how they
occur, can give couples amazing pleasure.
Variety can offer even more pleasure.
Some people enjoy being involved in their
partner’s orgasms, rather than focusing on their own.
Hearing, seeing, or feeling their partner’s arousal,
climax, and release can even send some of them over
the edge along with, or right after, them.
CyberSM, The 2nd Experiment, 1993-94 from Kirk Woolford on Vimeo.
Women want sex far more than we’ve been allowed to believe.
This shatters many of our most cherished myths about desire.
Another assumption is that women’s lust is inextricably
bound up with emotional connection. Are men ready to cope
with the reality of heterosexual women’s horniness?
The evidence suggests we aren’t, at least not yet.
When it comes to acknowledging just how much
women lust, we’ve passed the point of no return.
Women want sex just as much as men do, and this
drive is “not, for the most part, sparked or
sustained by emotional intimacy and safety.
When it comes to the craving for sexual variety,
women may be even less well-suited for monogamy than men.
This may be the last nail in the coffin of the old
consensus that women use sex as a means to get
something else they really want, such as enduring
monogamous emotional intimacy and the goods and safety
that come in marriage with a protector and provider.
I Want a Sexually
Experienced Older Woman
Men are attracted to a woman who knows
what it’s all about and is sexually liberated.
The idea of a woman who is knowledgeable and
passionate is exciting to a lot of young men
who are getting more hesitant about interactions
or conditional sexual access from younger women.