The most straightforward interpretation
of backdoor man is dog mounting bitch.
Doggie style. But there are alternatives.
The first time I heard Jim Morrison sing
“I’m a back door man / The men don’t know /
But the little girl understand,” I had a
good idea what a “back door man” was.
Then I heard Robert Plant [Led Zeppelin] sing
“Shake for me, girl / I wanna be your backdoor man”
Both Jim Morrison and Robert Plant were singing
about heterosexual anal sex. Don’t just read
the lyrics in their songs, read the books
written by their friends and the people
around them in their heyday.
Both these men led wild, adventurous lives
experimenting with drugs and sex.
Jim Morrison took Willie Dixon’s song and sang
it with a different meaning. Morrison also left
out some of the lyrics from the original song.
When Morrison and Plant were around, anal sex
was even more taboo than it is today. Society
was even more likely to blow its top (no pun
intended) when someone mentioned anal sex.
These days, while still taboo, anal sex porn
is everywhere in adult bookstores and on the
Internet. Both gays and heterosexuals are
full-on practicing anal sex.
A-way, way down inside
I’m gonna give ya my love
I’m gonna give ya every inch of my love
Shake for me girl
I wanna be your backdoor man
Anal Sex Option
Ready for full-on anal sex?
Here are some warm-up exercises.
Start small. The whole point of anal
play is to keep it simple before working your way up.
To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers,
tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play.
The person doing it should err on the shallow side.
Everything going in should be just the tip.
The nerve endings you’re trying to stimulate
are in the anus — hence the slang term rimming.
And not all the way up there, which is
generally the painful part.
Imagine it like a basketball hoop, and the ball
should just be rolling around the rim of the basket,
not actually making the basket.
No rapid-fire movement. Vigorous jamming
of fingers anywhere shouldn’t happen immediately.
So much sex is fast, especially in
porn,but anal play needs to be slow.
You can vary positions. Not all butt stuff
needs to be done doggy style. It’s true
it might be a little harder to get some
solid eye-contact going on when face-to-anus
things are happening.
There are a variety of positions to try,
like lying on your back with your hips
elevated, or sitting on his face in
reverse cowgirl. Move around until you
find one that makes you feel most at ease.
Try additional stimulation.
Vaginal, clitoral, nipples – whichever feels best.
While some women only need butt play à la carte,
most women can’t come from anal stimulation alone.
The anal part is icing on the cake.
It adds to the overall experience.