It’s strange how the words, “I can’t orgasm from sex.
I’ve never been able to,” always come out in a faint whisper.
The tone of “shameful confession” is adopted frequently.
Sitting by your side in the confessional box, I reply
in a steady voice, “There is a way.”
The coital alignment technique (CAT) sex position, known
colloquially as grinding the corn, is used primarily as
a variant of the missionary position.
It’s designed to maximize clitoral stimulation during
sexual intercourse. This is achieved by combining the
“riding high” variation of the missionary position
with pressure-counter-pressure movements performed
by each partner in rhythm with the fucking.
Sex without Orgasm Is Like Dancing without Rhythm
While sex without an orgasm can be enjoyed, the pleasure is dull, and can lead to a sense of disappointment that will fall onto your partner.
An orgasm is a vital part of the sexual experience, not just a far-off possibility. In fact, an orgasm is the only difference between a workout and a night of furious passion.
There may be a multitude of factors inhibiting people from achieving their happy ending – dissatisfaction with their significant other, stress or other psychological factors.
While I wish the best to them all, I am in no way fit to assist them in this regard.
Let’s go straight to the main event. In trying to comfort my girlfriends about their problems with orgasms, I would find myself at a loss for words trying to describe something that had always come so easily to me.
Fortunately, I’ve become a bit more articulate. Which leads us to CAT, the Coital Alignment Technique.
Imagine my surprise, then, when the technique I’d previously sworn by appeared in the most recent issue of Cosmopolitan. Though some of you may scoff, Cosmo has done its homework on this one: It’s been proven to increase chance of female orgasm by 56 percent. Take that.
The position itself is surprisingly simple. The premise is having the male pubic bone, or the base of the shaft, come together with the clitoris in a rhythmic fashion. (What a mantra.)
There are several ways this can be achieved, but the simplest is in a missionary position, during which the man (on top) shifts forward after entering, minimizing the distance between his chest and your shoulders.
While in this position, the guy uses short, rhythmic thrusts while his partner moves in tandem to find a sort of harmonious rocking. Orgasm? Check.
There are other variations on this, too. One very simple way to achieve it is through propping a few pillows beneath the woman in missionary, allowing her pelvis to tilt at a more upward angle, facilitating clitoral contact.
A girl-on-top version of CAT is possible, too (and my all-time favorite): just get on top, slide in real close and let the fireworks begin.