Sexually, Does Anything Go?
We are not entirely permissive. There are still
several sexual practises we neither accept nor reject.
One of them is oral sex
Felatio and cunnilingus is not all that uncommon,
especially in young adults. This may be because
they see it as a way to retain virginity.
Another sexual practice still called into question
in our culture is anal sex. It’s not practiced by
a majority of the population. This implies that
anal sex is still socially taboo.
And then there’s casual, or premarital sex.
In our history, the popular idea was to wait
until marriage to have sex.
Today a large majority believe in and practice
premarital sex, implying that this is now the norm.
We can’t assume sexual attitudes are becoming
more permissive. But we are becoming more sophisticated
in our collective attitude to sex.
We seem to be less worried about the behaviour
of consenting adults, but continue to be concerned
about situations that may involve deception (as in
the case of extramarital sex) or where the participants
are under the age of consent (as in the case of early teen sex).
The Lustful Human Animal
Some sex acts are proscribed the world over. From an evolutionary
perspective, it should come as no surprise that all known
societies censure incest, sexual abduction, and rape.
But even where there are cultural agreements about these
transgressions, there are huge cultural differences
in how they are handled.
In one society, a certain offence leads to a passing
family quarrel; in another, that very same behavior
results in the offender having to privately apologize
to his (or her) victim and paying a fine.
In yet another society, the act in question
leads to irreparable stigma, mutilation, exile,
imprisonment, or even execution.
Children Practise Sex
from an Early Age
It’s Natural
to Fuck Around
Despite persistent attempts to control
rampant sexual activity, sexual exploration,
permissiveness and promiscuity continues.
Both sexes still fantasise forbidden fruit.
Young women who are overtly sexual and pursue
multiple male partners often experience moral
outrage and “slut shaming” of a kind that is
entirely unheard of in other parts of the world.
While these cultural attitudes used science for
justification, that position is becoming increasingly
difficult to reconcile with the biological evidence.
Female sexuality appears to be a far more dynamic
area of research than Darwin could have imagined.
Far from being passive, females are flexible
and opportunistic individuals who confront
recurring reproductive dilemmas and trade-offs
within a world of shifting options.
As one woman said, “It’s our
party. We can fuck who we want to.”
Sexual Promiscuity
Sexual promiscuity is ingrained in our psyches.
It’s our intrinsic nature to ‘look for greener pastures’.
Adultery is not an assault on the sanctity of the
marital institution. The problem with mankind is
its failure to understand the dynamics of sex.
Sexual promiscuity is as old as the hills.
Men as well as women indulge in random sex.
But the patriarchal territorial nature of man
in his relationships, especially sexual in nature,
made sexual adventurism in the ambit of marriage,
companionship or togetherness a cardinal sin.
With the advent of organized religions, the criminalisation
of sexual morality and mores assumed greater significance.
Casual sex became a taboo and all its ramifications like
homosexuality, incest, adultery etc. also became immoral.
This negatively impacted our sexual evolution.
In the words of Sigmund Freud, ‘Humans didn’t
evolve sexually, they rather devolved sexually’.
Despite the social evolution of attempts to control
rampant sexual activity, basic sexual exploration
has never dimmed. Both sexes still fantasise forbidden fruit.
Fighting it is to resist the basics of human mental
and sexual make-up. Society has however always chosen
to live in a state of denial about it.
Perhaps it is time to realise that promiscuity
is an acceptable part of human behaviour and
even a sign of sexual maturity.
Mighty Fine Erotica
What is
transgressive
behavior?
Exceeding a limit or boundary, especially of social
acceptability. Relating to a genre of fiction,
filmmaking, or art characterized by graphic depictions
of behavior that violates socially acceptable norms,
often involving violence, drug use, and sexual deviancy.
Alice Erotica
All adolescents have sex lives, whether they’re
sexually active with others, with themselves,
or seemingly not at all.
Viewing adolescent sexuality as a potentially
positive experience, rather than something
inherently dangerous, may help young people
develop healthier patterns and make more
positive choices regarding sex.
Lolita Lingerie
Adult Sexual Attraction to
Children Is Part of Human
Sexuality
Whipping up hatred is one of the conditioning techniques used by the capitalist media in Western countries. It’s cathartic, relieving us of repressed anger towards inequality and exploitation.
These hate objects range from so-called dictators in developing countries to homegrown ones like immigrants, homosexuals and paedophiles.
We need to be aware of the objective in setting up fall guys. It is social manipulation, a form of brainwashing. The media create these hate rallies [spectacles] to distract us.
Society’s outrage at paedophile relationships is essentially emotional, irrational, and not justified by science.
It’s the quality of the relationship that matters. If there’s no bullying, no coercion, no abuse of power, if the child enters into the relationship voluntarily then the evidence shows there need be no harm.
A Dutch study published in 1987 found that a sample of boys in paedophilic relationships felt positively about them. And a major if still controversial 1998-2000 meta-study suggests that such relationships, entered into voluntarily, are nearly always uncorrelated with undesirable outcomes.
Most people find that idea impossible. An article in one of last year’s peer-reviewed Archives of Sexual Behaviour found the idea disturbing, but “we must recognise that persuasive evidence for the harmfulness of paedophile relationships does not yet exist.
If that assertion does nothing else, it underlines the need for more research on paedophilia – something on which everyone in the field at least is agreed.
There is, too, broad consensus around the idea that the approach to paedophilia must be about management and prevention: on stopping potential offenders making that contact (or downloading that image).
But broader, societal change is needed. Adult sexual attraction to children is part of the continuum of human sexuality, not something we can eliminate.
We should be able to talk about this rationally, acknowledging that men do get sexually attracted to children but they don’t have to act on it.
Maybe then we can avoid the hysteria. We shouldn’t label paedophiles monsters. It won’t be taboo to see and name what is happening in front of us.
We can help keep children safe by allowing paedophiles to be ordinary members of society, with moral standards like everyone else.
We should respect and value those paedophiles who choose self-restraint. Only then will men tempted to abuse children be able to be honest about their feelings.
Female Sexual
Liberation Is Still to Come
A culture in which millions of women are devouring a novel about sadomasochism still has problems discussing women’s sexuality in a positive, empowering way.
Vaginal Massage
Caress it with your tongue and stroke it gently. She may experience successive orgasms if you continue stimulating the clitoris even after she shudders.
Sexual Transgression Studies
Sexuality became largely depoliticised. Passions once roused by the horrors of sweatshops or humanitarian war were gradually transferred to fisting and nipple-piercing.
Liberation from Monogamy
Western culture showers us with monogamous ideals but we’re still compelled by our biology to stray. We need the buzz of sexual stimulation with another person. We need fresh sex.
Sex with Elegance
The Mormon Take
on Transgression
All sexual relations outside marriage violate the law of chastity.
This includes intercourse; touching the private, sacred parts of
another person’s body, with or without clothing; arousing sexual
feelings in others or yourself for the purpose of gratification;
Viewing or sending pornography; reading pornographic literature;
deliberately dwelling on sexual thoughts; and talking or texting
about sex in an explicit manner with the intent of arousing sexual feelings.