Kick your dirty
talk up a notch
“I want to your fingers inside my cunt,”
“You know I want to fuck you right now,”
“Come over here and feel how wet I am.”
I love holding your cock and feeling it get hard in my hands.
I want you to handcuff me and fuck me any way you’d like.
Do you like the fact that I think about you when I’m masturbating.
Tonight I want to watch you jerk yourself off.
I keep fantasizing about you forcing me to have sex
Most couples don’t talk to each other about sex.
Often that’s because they don’t have the words.
Many of them don’t know, or aren’t comfortable
using correct terms. For example, a guy might
say “vagina” when he means the vulva.
He may talk about “doing it,” though it’s not
always clear what “it” is: Vaginal intercourse?
A lot of work initially is just getting comfortable
with those words. It’s sometimes hard for your partner
to say what she wants sexually. try asking specific,
instead of open-ended, questions. ‘What do you like?
often won’t prompt a useful answer.
Do one thing, then do another thing and then
ask ‘Which do you like better?’
Many men are not only hesitant to talk about sex,
but they also think they should keep quiet during
sex. Usually that’s not a good thing.
There are far too many people having sex in silence.
Couples should give each other verbal cues.
Try using neutral prompts like, harder,
slower or right there.
Give really basic, clear information. You don’t
have to be a master dirty talker.
Men shouldn’t hold back back moans, grunts, and sighs.
Sounds of sex are a turn-on for women as much as it’s
exciting for men. Try letting go a little more.
Lose your inhibitions. The best sex is out of control.
Learn to talk dirty to each other. It’s surprising
how effective “fuck me” can be.
How do you talk dirty in French?
Prends-moi par derrière. = Take me from behind.
Baises moi. = Fuck me.
Suces moi la bite. = Suck my cock.
Avales. = Swallow.
Défonces-moi. = Drill me.
Fais-moi une branlette. = Give me a little handjob.
Doigtes-moi. = Finger me.
There’s this notion that penile penetration
is at the center of our conceptualization
of sexual intercourse.
Does this mean that sex with neither penis
nor penetration (for instance two women stimulating
one another orally) isn’t really sex? I think not.
It’s time for us to recognize that sex doesn’t
always mean a straight man driving his probably
-not-that-powerful member into some cock-loving female.