Would You Like
to Come Inside Me?
A lot of women say they don’t like men always
asking permission for everything in bed.
Better to go for it, gently, and she’ll let
you know if she likes it in one way or another.
But is this true about coming inside her?
Say you are having sex and the two
of you haven’t discussed it before.
He’s getting close to finishing. Would you
prefer he do so inside you, outside, or ask?
I suppose it’s different if he’s using a condom.
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Women Think Men
Want Sex All the Time
It’s The Testosterone, Stupid
Men are pissed off. Women never seem to want sex.
Women are pissed off because men always want sex.
The reason humans want sex is fuelled by
testosterone, predominantly a male hormone.
An average male produces 20 times more than a female.
A male feels the need for sex after a
day without it, a female after 20 days.
A male who hasn’t had sex for twenty
days feels the same way as a female
after more than a year without sex.
Knowing this simple difference, you
can understand the ‘manpain’ of males.
It’s not their fault. They’re made
this way. It’s in their genes.
A man can father a child every time
he has sex but a woman can only mother
a child every two years or so.
This means a woman needs to be
picky with whom she has sex.
While men are determined to seek better genes too,
they had to grab all chances to procreate coming
their way to ensure their genes would be passed forward.
Men Just Want
to Plant Their Seed
By nature men are made to seek as much sex as
they can get, so they can spread their seed wider.
By nature women are made to seek as many admirers
as they can get, so they can make a better choice
and get the best seed.
Men seek quantity. Women seek quality.
I Want to Come Inside You
This guy I sleep with knows I’m not on birth control,
nor do we use condoms (problems with me and my health).
Lately, he’s been saying each time we have
sex that he wants to come inside me.
I don’t know how to respond to this.
He’s mentioned before he’ wanted to marry me.
I wonder if this is his way of trying to get me to think
of having a child with him? He wouldn’t just come out
and say that if he wanted it.
He’s a little reserved with his feelings. Yet his
persistence with saying the same thing makes me wonder
if it’s his way of asking for me to bear his child.
How would you interpret this? And how do I respond to it?
My gut reaction is to let him come wherever he wants and
encourage it. You can see why I might be confused.
Serial Orgasms
for Women
She Just
Keeps on Coming
Debs remembers the night she experienced her first multiple orgasm. It changed her life forever.
I’d had orgasms before, plenty of them. But I never understood what the big deal was. I’d come, he’d come, we’d fall asleep. Then one night, after I’d had my typical one-shot, my boyfriend kept thrusting.
All of a sudden, I felt like I was going to come again. I just gave into the feeling, and my body exploded.
It was as though I was rocking on the ocean and every wave drove these amazing pulses of pleasure through me.
Orgasms will tend to last anywhere from a few seconds to less than a minute for most people, most of the time.
Female orgasm often tends to last a bit longer than male orgasm. But for both men and women, we’re still talking within an average of a few seconds to around 30 seconds most of the time.
They can feel like they last longer than that. The pelvic contractions we feel during orgasm can also make one orgasm feel like more than one.
Some people can have what we call “serial” orgasms, which means that you have a kind of orgasm that’s a little bit like popcorn popping: once one orgasm starts, another follows right on its heels, and possibly another after that, so that it feels like orgasm goes on for a few minutes, rather than a few seconds.
Technically, serial orgasms are a multiple orgasm, rather than a single They’re just not the kind where you have a whole or partial cycle of sexual response leading up to the next one, or take a break from sex after orgasm, then go back to sex later and reach orgasm again.
Not everyone is multiple orgasmic. We really don’t know why some people are and others don’t seem to be, no matter what they try. Some studies have even suggested that genetics might be part of the equation.
We also know that with women it’s typical for younger women to have a tougher time reaching orgasm or having multiple orgasms. Greater sexual pleasure and more intense orgasm does tend to increase with age.
The way to find out is to experiment. That might mean continuing oral sex while you’re having that one orgasm and then beyond.
It might mean quickly shifting to an additional or secondary sexual activity, such as having a partner then add a sex toy, adding fingers for manual sex, or shifting to fucking in certain positions.
With clitoral stimulation specifically, remember it’s a lot bigger than it looks! The part a partner is stimulating on the outside via oral sex is only part of the act.
Persuade him to stimulate other parts, like the internal clitoris we can feel through massaging the outer labia or with manual sex inside the vagina.
This may be the ticket to extending your orgasm a little or bringing you to a second one.
Come Inside Me
