The Sex She Wants
Men are pretty straightforward about sex.
They can pretty much manage it anytime.
Men have more frequent and spontaneous sexual arousal
than women with more frequent sexual thoughts and fantasies.
It’s not the way women are. They’re far more likely
than men to call themselves bisexual, which suggests
women’s sexuality more complicated and nuanced.
A women’s sex drive is weaker and more
easily influenced by circumstances.
Men need to acknowledge that they are biologically
programmed, hot-wired to spread their seed as often
and as widely as possible.
In today’s cultural terms that means that they are
perfectly capable, even inclined, to have sex without
a great deal of emotion. But real life and the needs
of their partners step in.
Women want to flirt first, to warm up before sex.
The anticipation of sex is as important for
women as the sex itself. We ignore that at our peril.
Men should realise that the build-up is necessary.
You need a few practise laps before the race starts.
Also significant, many women don’t orgasm during
penetrative sex. Even when they do it takes twice
as long as men to reach orgasm.
If you can give her an orgasm before you penetrate
her, then it’s GUARANTEED to be good sex in her book,
even if you don’t last as long as you’d like.
On top of this, giving her an orgasm will make
her more responsive and MUCH more likely to have
another orgasm during intercourse.
Sex becomes better for you, and for her.
She Comes First
#1 – GIVING HER AN ORGASM BEFORE INTERCOURSE STARTS
This is the biggest thing women wish for. Most men don’t do it. Iinstead, they clumsily plow straight to intercourse as fast as possible.
This means that “foreplay” usually consists of a few minutes of obligatory kissing, followed by a few minutes of obligatory breast stimulation, followed by a few minutes of obligatory cunnilingus until the ultimate goal of intercourse is reached. This isn’t what women want!
#2 – PAYING ATTENTION TO NON-OBVIOUS EROGENOUS ZONES
Most men only pay attention to the “obvious” spots on a woman’s body when trying to give her sexual pleasure, like the breasts, clitoris and g-spot. But women don’t want you to ONLY pay attention to these spots … they want you to pay attention to their WHOLE BODY.
This is because there are 16 other “hidden” erogenous zones on her body which can give her pleasure, and which can actually make her MORE sensitive to vaginal stimulation. Most men don’t know about these … but if you’re one of the rare men who does, then she’ll be screaming your name in pleasure.
#3 – LASTING LONGER IN BED
Supposedly, women don’t mind if you don’t last that long in bed, as long as you’re good with your fingers and that it’s OK for a man to only last a few minutes in bed. This is a big steaming heap of BS.
Women HATE it when a man shoots off too soon because it prevents them from having orgasms. How would you feel if a woman got YOU close to an orgasm, then all of a sudden stopped, rolled over, and went to sleep?
You need to know how to last 30 minutes in bed AT THE MINIMUM. If you really want to drive women wild, then you should learn how to last over an hour in bed. And of course you can have a “quickie” once in a while, but most of the time women will need a minimum of 30 minutes of intercourse to have multiple orgasms.
#5 – MORE ORAL SEX
I’m constantly amazed by how many men have told me that they don’t give women oral sex that often, or that they don’t do it at all. The justification which I’ve heard so many times is “it’s OK, I’m good with my fingers.”
This is like a girl telling you “I don’t give blowjobs … but it’s OK, I’m good with my hands.” It’s just not the same. If you know how to do it right, giving her oral sex is the fastest and easiest way to give her orgasms.
Plus, once you make her finish through oral sex she’ll be MUCH more responsive during intercourse … and much more likely to go down on you. Give your girlfriend plenty of oral sex, and she will love you for it.
Breasts Are a Significant
Erogenous Zone in Woman.
Each tit is a snowflake. Just because something has
worked with one partner in the past, that doesn’t
mean the same will work for your next partner.
There’s not one specific tip that’s going to be good
for every woman. Some women want breast stimulation
in the form of tender, soft teasing, and some want it
rougher. You have to know your audience.