When I lost my virginity in high school, it was
to a guy who had already had sex with someone else.
Now I’m in my 20s and obviously the guys I’m sleeping
with now haven’t been virgins for a long time.
Lately I’ve been really hung up on this Mrs. Robinson
fantasy of meeting some virginal guy and giving him
this mind-blowing first night of sex. I don’t know any
virgins, and I don’t want to do anything illegal (under 18).
There are probably a few 18-and-over guys in college
who have their Virgin tickets, though I doubt they’d admit it.
You could hang around NYU bars and see what you can scoop
up at 4 in the morning. But consider to consider a few things.
First: I think someone’s first time having sex
is probably going to be kind of awkward and not
that great, however wonderful you are.
It just kind of takes a while to get the mechanics down.
Lots of guys, especially with a person they don’t know,
lose their boner the first time. Or just squirt after two seconds.
I know that it’s not as conceptually sexy to be like
“I want to give a guy a night at my pleasure palace
for the 25th time he has sex,” but something like
that might work out better for both of you.
Virginity, in the way you describe it, is a very straight person idea. I mean, why is putting your penis into a vagina more important than into a mouth or a butt or anything else?
I understand the cultural weight it has, but a large part of the sex-having world doesn’t work this way.
What I’m getting at is that you might have an easier time fulfilling your fantasy—because that’s what this is really about, right? Getting you off, not getting off some yet-to-be-determined virgin—if you were less literal about it.
I suspect the seduction you’re imagining would be much more fun as a role-play with a non-virgin. Or an ongoing series of encounters with a man that is maybe not actually a virgin, but just inexperienced for whatever reason. Or even just bad at sex and looking to improve.