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We Spent the Night Together. Monogamy isn’t Natural
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The new kid on the internet-holiday-rental block is
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Boasting more than 80 properties in 20 countries,
including a secluded bush property about an hour
from Brisbane, which offers guests an ‘orgy and
swinger friendly’ dungeon with a swimming pool.
Another dungeon in Seattle, which has 2,000 square
feet and ‘amenities’ including spanking benches,
cages and an isolation cell.
There’s also a custom-made queen-sized bondage bed
and a scary-sounding community house in Slovenia.
Slide your index and middle finger inside her and fuck her
with your fingers by moving them in a “come-hither” motion.
You’ll find her g-spot by doing this. This will be fucking
intense because she had just had an from your tongue.
This more of a continued orgasm and it’s amazing.
She’ll be pretty vocal at this point by telling you
what feels good and if she wants it harder, deeper,
more fingers. Your complicity is part of how
fucking awesome her orgasm is.
We Spent the Night Together
The Slut Tradition
If you haven’t experienced the sheer terror of waking up
in a bed that’s not your own, with your first thought being,
“I need to get the fuck out of here,” then you haven’t lived.
For those of us keeping up the slut tradition, this one’s for you.
It doesn’t mean that you need to have blacked out
and not know how you got into the bed you’re waking
up in, although I’m not ruling that out entirely.
But typically the sheer panic mode that endures is
due to the inevitable awkwardness that you’ll be
forced to replay over and over in your head
during your walk of shame.
Monogamy Isn’t Natural
Couples are led to believe that waning sexual passion
in enduring marriages or sexual interest in anyone but
their partner portend a failed relationship.
In reality these things often signify nothing
more than that we are Homo sapiens.
There’s no reason to believe monogamy comes naturally to us.
In fact, for millions of years, evolutionary forces have
cultivated human libido to the point where ours is arguably
the most sexually-driven species on Earth.
Anal Sex for Breakfast
Men like morning sex, while women mostly prefer to keep
bedroom activity reserved for night-time.
This has a lot to do with nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT).
It causes a man to have three to five erections as he sleeps.
NPT is more commonly referred to as morning wood or
morning glory. Waking up with an erection is as
good a reason as any to initiate early action.
Unfortunately, your girl may not be in the mood the minute
she opens her eyes, but if you approach it properly she’ll
very quickly be just as into morning sex as you are.
Morning is the perfect time for sex
because your body’s ready for it.
Suppose you’re still half-asleep but semi-aware
of that warm body beside you. It’s way too early
for acrobatics. Just the moment for spooning.
The position allows you and your partner to
stay comfortable while getting intimate.
Have you and your partner both face the same
direction, allowing him to penetrate you from
behind using his penis, fingers, or a sex toy.
Make sure to keep a coordinated
rhythm for maximum stimulation.
One of the most striking changes in American sexual behavior in nearly 20 years is the increase in anal sex between heterosexual couples. As many as 40% to 45% of women and men in some age groups reported having engaged in it.
It can involve fingering, licking, and toys. It’s fantasy and role play. It’s (possibly) G-spot stimulation and, for men who are on the receiving end, it’s (quite often) prostate stimulation. .
Anal fingering can be a comfortable and gentle place to begin exploring anal penetration. Unlike when using a sex toy, during finger-play the the one fingering can feel for himself what is going on inside a partner’s bum and get a sense of the interior landscape.
Fingering is often used to warm up the butt for bigger things to come–sex toys or a penis–but it can be an enjoyable end point all on its own.
The anal tissues are delicate and can be torn easily, so make sure to trim and file your fingernails well before anal sex begins, thus eliminating any rough or sharp edges.
If your nails are particularly long, pack them in cotton and wear a latex or non-latex glove. If you’re fingering or being fingered by a non-monogamous partner, “no glove, no love” is a policy you might want to take literally.
What to Do
Find a comfortable position in which the receiver can relax. A great deal of trust is involved when it comes to putting things in the butt, so many people like to start with the index finger on their back.
In this position, partners can maintain eye contact and the person being fingered can see what is happening, including how many fingers are going in at once (that way, there’s no surprises!).
A pillow under the lower back is an easy way to prop up the behind without the receiver having to contort or balance on elbows.
There’s not enough lube in the world to compensate for a lack of warm-up. So before anything is stuck anywhere, focus on the kinds of foreplay you typically enjoy together such as kissing, dirty talk, breast play or oral sex to get in the mood.
Lubrication is often the key between a good anal experience and the kind that turns people off of anal sex for life. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t lubricate on its own when aroused, so it’s important to use a personal lubricant.
Lubes are made from various ingredients and come in a multitude of consistencies. For more about lubes and your choices check out our mini-guide at goodinbed.com.
When you’re ready to try anal fingering, start by caressing the butt cheeks or teasing with kisses. With a well-lubed finger, circle the opening and “ring the doorbell”–tap the rosebud with the pad of a finger. This can be a good way to relax your partner’s anus and gently open things up.
Ask your partner if it’s okay to proceed. If given the green light, gently insert your index finger up to the first knuckle. Let your lover get used to the sensation and give the sphincter muscles a few seconds to relax; it might not be a bad time to check in again and make sure everyone is still having a good time.
If and when your partner is ready for more, ease your finger further in. Again, give your lover a chance to get used to the new sensation. If at any point your partner wants you to remove your finger, do so slowly and carefully.
If the two of you have decided to go in further, experiment to see what your partner likes. Explore the rectal walls with a gentle circular motion. Give a little wiggle. Try sliding your finger in and out, mix up the speeds and find out what pleases.
Having mastered one finger, you might want to try two or more. One technique is to cross your gloved index and middle fingers into a mega-finger (make sure that mega finger is properly lubricated). Use the same methods as with one finger. Go slow, and check in often with your partner.
The Anus Is an Erogenous Zone
It’s rich in nerve endings at the opening.
The rectum responds to stimulation and
penetration, which is why butt plugs exist.
The reason a lot of women experience pain is
because the opening of the anus is a ring of
muscle and it has to be unclenched for this to work.
It involves the field of anal foreplay, which includes
lube, massage, testing the waters with a pinkie, and maybe
reminding yourself that you consented to this.
Your anus is more delicate than your vagina and less
resilient.You can hurt someone if you do it wrong.
All that sensitive tissue is both a blessing and a curse.