Engorged Vulva

Women Swell When Sexually Aroused

Are You Wet Down There?

When a woman is sexually roused, increased blood
supply to the vagina causes it to swell, decreasing
the size of the vaginal opening by about 30%.

The clitoris becomes increasingly erect
and the glans moves towards the pubic bone,
becoming concealed by the hood.

Sexual Arousal: Four Stages

Sexual arousal results in a number of physical
changes in the vulva. These are broken up into
four somewhat arbitrary phases: Excitement,
Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution.


Half to three-quarters of women get a sex flush,
which can show as pink patches developing on the
breasts and spreading around the body.

About a quarter of men get it too, starting on
the abdomen and spreading to the neck, face and back.
Men quickly get an erection but may lose it and
regain it during this phase.

Women’s sex organs swell. The clitoris, labia minora
and the vagina all enlarge. The muscles around the
opening of the vagina grow tighter, the uterus expands
and lubricating fluid is produced.
The breasts also swell and the nipples get hard.

Unlike men, where sexual excitement causes readily
apparent erections, women experiencing arousal are
not necessarily aware that their vaginas have become
lubricated and engorged with blood.


Increased vasocongestion in the vagina causes it to swell, decreasing the size of the vaginal opening by about 30%. The clitoris becomes increasingly erect, and the glans moves towards the pubic bone, becoming concealed by the hood.

The labia minora increase considerably in thickness, approximately 2–6 times, causing them to spread apart, displaying the vaginal opening.

The labia minora sometimes change considerably in color, going from pink to red in lighter skinned women who have not borne a child, or red to dark red in those that have.


Immediately prior to the female orgasm, the clitoris becomes exceptionally engorged, causing the glans to appear to retract into the clitoral hood.

This is thought to protect the sensitive glans during orgasm. However, there is some doubt that this is the case, since the same engorgement prior to orgasm occurs in the male homologous structure, the penis, the function of which is thought to be to extend the penis as close to the cervix as possible prior to ejaculation.

Rhythmic muscle contractions occur in the outer third of the vagina, as well as the uterus and anus. They occur initially at a rate of about one every 0.8 seconds, becoming less intense and more randomly spaced as the orgasm continues.

An orgasm may have as few as one or as many as 15 or more contractions, depending on its intensity. Orgasm may be accompanied by female ejaculation, causing liquid from either the Skene’s gland or bladder to be expelled through the urethra.

Immediately after orgasm the clitoris may be so sensitive that any stimulation is either exciting or uncomfortable.


The pooled blood begins to dissipate, although at a much slower rate if an orgasm has not occurred. The vagina and vaginal opening return to their normal relaxed state, and the rest of the vulva returns to its normal size, position and color.

When it comes to fucking, wetter is better. Since your natural
wetness can decrease at times due to a variety of things
(stress, medication and birth-control pills), adding lube
helps ease penetration so sex is pleasurable and not painful.

But using lubricant can be effective even when you don’t have
dryness down there. It boosts your vagina’s sensation and allows
your man to thrust longer and harder without causing discomfort.


Lubrication, especially vaginal lubrication
is an important part of sexual arousal.

It readies the vagina for penetration and reduces
any accompanying friction or irritation.
But don’t use saliva as a lubricant during sex.

If anyone with a mouth sore uses saliva as a lubricant,
the partner would be exposed to genital herpes.

Men Get Erections; Women Get Lubricated

When a woman is sexually roused, increased blood
supply to the vagina causes it to swell, decreasing
the size of the vaginal opening by about 30%.

The clitoris becomes increasingly erect
and the glans moves towards the pubic bone,
becoming concealed by the hood.

Rise and Rouse

Women’s genital responses are hidden from view
and produce fewer somatosensory cues [touch sight].
While men may get turned on by feeling themselves
get erect, women do not.

Even when women received feedback about their
level of vaginal engorgement, correlations
between genital and subjective arousal were
low and statistically insignificant. Being told
we’re getting turned on doesn’t necessarily turn us on.

Women may edit their self-report of feeling sexually
aroused because of socially desirable responses.
Positive effect directs attention to erotic stimuli,
thereby increasing sexual response, whereas
negative effect interferes in the processing of
sexual cues, resulting in lower sexual response.

Lower consistency among women may reflect their
experience of negative effect while watching
the conventional, commercially available erotica
which is primarily produced for men.

Vaginal Lubrication Is an Automatic Reflex

Female genital response entails increased genital
vasocongestion, necessary for the production
of vaginal lubrication which reduces discomfort
and the possibility of injury during vaginal penetration.

Genital response to sexual stimuli may be an evolved
self-protection mechanism. Female genital response is an
automatic reflex [like blinking] which is elicited by sexual
stimuli and produces vaginal lubrication, even if the woman
doesn’t subjectively feel sexually aroused.

Ancestral women who didn’t have an automatic vaginal
response to sexual cues may have been more likely
to experience injuries that resulted in illness,
infertility, or even death subsequent to unexpected
or unwanted vaginal penetration. They would have
been less likely to pass on this trait to their offspring.

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Hot Flushed Sex

Increase Blood Flow to the Skin

When a woman’s touched on the hand or the face by a man it’s enough to cause a rise in body temperature. The same is true for men. Their skin becomes warmer when they’re sexually excited.

The rise in skin temperature is caused by increased blood flow, which could also cause the face to appear more coloured and attractive.

A slight reddening of the face may also be a subtle signal of arousal meant for the partner.

Scientists recruited 16 heterosexual women aged 19 to 24 and secretly took thermal images of their faces while an examiner pretended to measure their skin temperature in four different places using a hand-held plastic device.

When the device was held against their palm, outer arm, chest or face, the women’s facial temperature increased by an average of 0.1C.

The change was much more pronounced when “personal” areas of the body, such as the face and chest, were touched and was stronger when the researcher was male rather than female.

The temperature change was driven by face and chest contact which were significantly higher than arm or palm contact. It is really the personal location contact that is causing it.

A second experiment, with only male researchers carrying out the measurements, found that the temperature rise was strongest along the centre of the face, with increases of 0.2C around the nose, 0.3C around the eyes and 0.46C around the mouth.

Social interaction also causes a change in the face’s colour.

It isn’t known if temperature changes and colour changes are inherently linked but it’s predictable if blood flow is increasing to an area, making it hot, it would also get redder.

Facial redness has been shown in previous studies to make people appear more attractive, but it could also have a negative impact because blushing is a signal of feeling uncomfortable.

Even if there is no change in colour the changes in facial temperature could still be detectable by others through touch or even smell, or they could be a signal to the individual themself to change their own behaviour.

She said: “Whether the changes measured in this study are detectable by others is currently unknown.

If such changes in facial temperature during social contact are detectable by observers or the individual, they could act as social cues.

Temperature changes may be evident to observers directly through touch, or indirectly through sight or smell.

Because temperature changes are due to changes in blood flow, they may be visible via concurrent skin colour changes.

Sex Flush During Orgasm Is Normal

Every time my boyfriend has an orgasm he gets goose bumps on his arms, shoulders and back. I also have noticed this with previous boyfriends. What causes this and does it happen with all men?

Your boyfriend is probably experiencing the sex flush, a rash-like color change of the skin, which results from a change in the pattern of blood flow just under the skin surface. The sex flush occurs as a normal part of sexual response in approximately 25 percent of men and 50 percent to 75 percent of women.

The flush usually begins on the upper abdomen and spreads over the chest, shoulders, and sometimes to the neck, buttocks, back, arms, legs and face. Sex flush appears when women and men are close to orgasm and disappears within 5 minutes after orgasm.

Some other changes that can result from sexual arousal are: swelling of the inner walls of the nose; nipple erection; muscular tension in the pelvis, abdomen, back, thighs, feet, face, and hands; perspiration; and increases in breathing, blood pressure and heart rate.

The First Phase of the Sexual Response Cycle: Excitement

General characteristics of this phase, which can last from a few minutes to several hours, include the following:

Muscle tension increases.

Heart rate quickens and breathing is accelerated.

Skin may become flushed (blotches of redness appear on the chest and back).

Nipples become hardened or erect.

Blood flow to the genitals increases, resulting in swelling of the woman’s clitoris and labia minora (inner lips), and erection of the man’s penis.

Vaginal lubrication begins.

The woman’s breasts become fuller and the vaginal walls begin to swell.

The man’s testicles swell, his scrotum tightens, and he begins secreting a lubricating liquid.

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