The fight to normalize female masturbation
began in the 1960s with second-wave feminists.
By advocating for the clitoral orgasm and for
clitoral stimulation as a form of masturbation
they were striking a blow against patriarchal
norms and in favor of female self sufficiency.
What is more threatening to the rule of men
than the ability to pleasure oneself without
a man? It really is a form of liberation.
Let’s talk about how to masturbate. It’s easy enough
to get online and find articles that gleefully say things
like, “Go forth and masturbate! You liberated goddess!”
The first thing you need to know is where your pleasure
zones are located before venturing forth to explore them.
The clitoris is a rosebud like bump at the apex of the labia.
It sits right inside the labia minora, at the very top.
Next you need to learn how to masturbate
with your hands. Use one to two fingers
to feel for it. It should feel just like a bump.
Once you know where it is, experiment with
different pressures. Start with rhythmic circles.
You may find that you enjoy more pressure,
or less pressure. Every vagina is different.
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What is an orgasm?
What does it feel like?
You will know when you’ve had an orgasm. There isn’t
much doubt about it. In my personal experience,
I’ve found that it’s a slow build up and then
a wonderful, delightful release.
Orgasm happens in four stages: excitement,
plateau, orgasm, and recovery.
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Excitement is when you first begin to feel sexual
pleasure in the way you’re touching yourself.
Plateau is when the pleasure begins building,
orgasm is the release, and recovery is that
lovely flood of oxytocin and other feel-good
neurochemicals — the post-orgasmic glow.
Remember, masturbation
is good for you.
Finally, remember that masturbation is nothing
to be ashamed of. I know you may feel nervous
about it and confused by the feelings you’re having.
You’re growing up and becoming an adult.
All of these new emotions and desires are completely normal.
Take some time to play around. Enjoy yourself and explore
what makes you feel good. You’ve got this, babe.
Masturbation is a stress reliever and has many other
health benefits. It just takes getting to know your
body with a little practice.
Masturbation: As
Natural As Breathing
Everyone Wanks
Masturbation. Most teenagers do it. Yet so many people worry about it! There are a lot of myths that masturbation is dirty, dangerous, or something to be embarrassed about.
But the truth is, we all do it. Guys masturbate, and girls do it, too. Single people and people in relationships do it.
Some people masturbate a few times a day, some do it a few times a year, and some don’t do it at all. Here are some common myths and facts about masturbation.
Is Masturbation Unhealthy?
The myth is that masturbation makes you blind, crazy, or stupid, damages your sex organs, or stunts your growth. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Masturbation is not emotionally or physically harmful in any way. In fact, it has a number of physical and mental health benefits — here are just a few:
Masturbation releases stress and physical tension. Many people masturbate to relax, and it can help some people fall asleep.
Orgasms — whether they’re from masturbation or sex with a partner — can act as a natural painkiller. Some women masturbate to relieve menstrual cramps. Research has also shown that orgasms may even prevent endometriosis, a disease of the uterine lining.
Do Girls Masturbate?
The myth is that girls don’t masturbate. Some people think that it’s OK for guys to masturbate or have other kinds of sex, but that girls shouldn’t.
Unfortunately, our society is often more comfortable with men expressing their sexuality than with women, so many girls are taught not to masturbate — or not to admit to doing it.
But the truth is, girls and women do masturbate, and there’s no reason why they shouldn’t. In fact, one study showed that women who masturbate have higher self-esteem than those who don’t.
Do people masturbate
in a sexual relationship?
The myth is that people in relationships don’t masturbate. Here’s an interesting fact — people who have regular sex partners actually masturbate more often than those who don’t.
Some people are concerned when they find out their partners masturbate. They wonder, “why would someone masturbate when they could have sex with me? Does this mean that my partner isn’t attracted to me?”
But many people, both in relationships and single, masturbate when their partners are unavailable.
Some people masturbate as a kind of dress rehearsal, to learn more about what they find pleasurable. People can learn about their bodies through masturbating, and this can help them communicate better with their partners about what they enjoy sexually.