Pleasuring Yourself
Masturbation helps us get to know our bodies and our minds. By masturbating, we learn about what turns us on. Mentally, we can tune in to our fantasies to understand the types of things that turn us on during masturbation.
While masturbating, do we fantasize about being dominated or being watched? These are clues which help us understand what makes us tick, and in turn, we can begin to understand how to get our needs met by a partner.
Individuals who are having issues with arousal or orgasm can benefit greatly from masturbation and self love, getting to know your body techniques.
Girls, if you are having trouble masturbating, I also suggest experimenting with some toys. Using a vibrator, for example, is a common way for women to learn to achieve orgasm.
Investing in a vibrator may be something you want to add into your sexual repertoire. Getting familiar with your body through the use of a vibrator is also a good way to gauge what you like and can be a fun and exciting thing to introduce to partner sex as well.
With an astonishing 18% of us women never experiencing the pleasure of an orgasm and only 33% achieving orgasm through sex isn’t it time to experiment on your own? Stick to the principle of what works for you and stay with it. Here are a few ideas to start you off.
Clitoral Orgasm
Clitoral stimulation is the guaranteed method for bringing most women to climax and with good reason. Did you know that 75% of orgasmic women need their clitoris directly stimulated to orgasm?
Even women who can have orgasms from penetrative sex, are only orgasmic as a result of the mans pubic bone banging on her clitoris. In short, it’s the nerve centre of female pleasure.
SELF-PLEASURE: Rock your pelvis forward and squeeze your vaginal muscles then release and repeat while masturbating. Combining muscle tension with muscle relaxation makes for an almost out-of-body orgasm experience.
Multiple Orgasms
The phrase ‘Multiple orgasm’ is misleading. An orgasm is something that you need to build up to , they don’t come automatically one after another.
Often women count each aftershock of pleasure as an orgasm which is really just an autonomic reflex that followed the orgasm she just experienced. One great orgasm can be equally mind-blowing as a series of smaller ones.
SELF-PLEASURE: Try bringing yourself to a climax slowly. Don’t rush towards the end. Start by using your fingers and when you orgasm continue touching yourself, but lighten the pressure a little.
The actual orgasm is the release of tension, so you need to build the tension again in order to have another one. You can take it further by using a vibrator to re-build that tension. Increase the vibration settings to let your orgasms roll on and on with only exhaustion to limit you.
Orgasms through Tension
We are talking the kind of orgasm that is about muscle tension. It’s easy just remember – clench, unclench. A tension orgasm is about tensing your muscles tight and having a fast, powerful orgasm. This orgasm, like any exercise, takes a bit of practice to perfect.
SELF-PLEASURE: Use a slim vibrator. This lets you grab it using your vaginal muscles. A bigger vibrator is difficult to clench, so use a smaller sex toy to practice squeezing.
Like any other muscles, vaginal muscles get stronger and stronger muscles equal stronger grip which in turn gives more intense orgasms. To give an extra bite to a tension orgasm, squeeze hard and fast and you’ll come quicker than usual.