Got a Clue
By most hetero 20-something-year-olds’ standards,
their sex that night was successful because the
guy was stimulated to orgasm and the woman got
a little something too. There’s the imbalance.
Male Power in the
Boardroom & Bedroom
My friend and I were discussing our recent sexual
experiences and she mentioned something unsettling.
She said the guy she was sleeping with consistently
for a month “made her give him head.” No, it wasn’t forced.
They were both mostly sober consenting adults,
participating in sexual activities with one another.
This guy happened to be just so charming out of bed,
that when he asked her not to stop, she didn’t stop.
This went on for well over 30 minutes. In return,
the guy attempted to play around the general vicinity
of her vagina, but mostly just searched for her
G-spot a little too aggressively.
Exhausted after giving a marathon of oral pleasure,
she feigned slight interest in his attempt, then
they both slumped to opposite sides of the bed
and called it a night. They haven’t seen one another since.
The guy was only interested in getting himself off
that night and my friend was not interested in trying
to stop him because she felt obliged to give him head.
Instead of advancing into a mutually beneficial sex
session, it was the guy’s show and only the his show.
Too often sex is a race for a guy to orgasm
and a disappointment for a woman. She’s left
dissatisfied and resentful.
Many young women are inactive participants in the
sex they’re having, and they aren’t talking about it.
As was the case for my friend, and is for far too
many sexually active women in their early 20s.
Take a look at the meaning of patriarchy It’s a system
where men hold the power and women are excluded from it.
Translate that to sex, and the similarities are striking.
Young Women Say
No to Bad Sex
A recent university study called “Scripting sexual
passivity: A gender role perspective” concluded
that gender role conformity indirectly depresses
sexual satisfaction for women but not men
The primary reason was that traditional gender-based
sexual roles dictate sexual passivity for women but
sexual agency for men. These gender roles people are
acted out from childhood and continue through
adulthood and into the bedroom.
None of this is the man’s fault. It’s the stereotypical
role that women play and accept in sex as a result of
societal and political values that’s to blame.
The outcome of masculine dominance in politics and society
is that women don’t have the tools, the language or the
confidence to become active participants in sex.
Not only does patriarchy reign supreme
in the bedroom, but women are allowing it.
She’s Probably Bored
Too often I hear stories about my female friends accepting
undesirable sex until the guy reaches climax. Either she is
bored, uncomfortable, or just isn’t into the sex.
Instead of saying that she is bored, uncomfortable,
or just not into the sex, she sits back and waits.
At this point, the sex has shifted into a submissive
acceptance of the patriarchal dominance in the bedroom.
Sure, awkward sex occasionally happens to those young,
trying-to-figure-it-all-out 20-something women.
It doesn’t have to be like that.
Women are are tired of being told they’re just a shell to make babies or a malleable toy intended for male pleasure. How about shifting the dialogue towards mutually beneficial intercourse?
Why can’t women say no to bad sex? Women can say no to laws that treat them like animals. They can say no to pro-life activists.
They can say no to a guy trying to buy them a drink. And they can say no to that second piece of cake. Yet women can’t say no to bad sex.
It’s about time women become active participants in the bedroom. Women need to speak up and tell their partner how they like it, or don’t. Sexual partners need to have an open dialogue so they can enjoy super hot sex together.
The current paradigm isn’t working, but until women shift their passive acceptance into active participation, patriarchy will remain the default position between the sheets.
Look here girl, Daddy is in charge not you.
Daddy will fuck you right. But maybe he
doesn’t want you to scream.
Maybe Daddy doesn’t want you to make a sound,
as Daddy’s cock spreads your princess parts
and slides into your little girl pussy.
Slamming into you over and over as Daddy’s big
hands cover your mouth so that your screams
just cum out muffled and your eyes will tell
the story of your pleasure.
I’ve always had a high sex drive. I
started watching porn when I was 14.
Since discovering the sex industry I’ve
had some incredible sexual experiences.
Come to Bed and Fuck Me
I want you to come to bed and fuck me!
Stroke me, fondle me, suck my nipples,
get your cock out and fuck my mouth.
Go on, put your cock in my mouth, I’ll take it
deep and suck it hard and then you can fuck me!
Are You Ready
You feel so vulnerable when you’re completely
naked in front of someone. Plus there are bodily
fluids involved with sex. You get sweaty, you
have to clean up afterwards.
If that scares you or grosses you
out, you’re probably not ready yet.
Spend more time making out and
getting comfortable with each other.