Men experience sex as a physical need.
For both both sexes our bodies tell us
when we’re hungry, thirsty or tired.
A man’s body tells him when he needs
sexual release.
I Want to Possess Her
A woman’s Desire is Responsive
Women need to feel sexually desired before
they’re turned on. So many assume that because
their desire is responsive, rather than
spontaneous, they have ‘low desire’.
Their ability to enjoy sex with their partner
is meaningless if they don’t also feel a
persistent urge for it.
They feel broken because their desire isn’t
what it’s ‘supposed’ to be.
They need a thoughtful exploration of what
creates desire between them and their partners.
This is likely to include confidence in their
bodies, feeling accepted, and (not least)
explicitly erotic stimulation.
Need for Sex
Sexual desire may be the single most common sexual
event in the lives of men and women.
Sexual desire is a subjective feeling which can
be triggered by both internal and external cues,
and that may or may not result in overt sexual behavior.
Sexual desire can be aroused through imagination and
sexual fantasies, or seeing an individual whom one
finds attractive.
Sexual desire is also created and amplified
through sexual tension, which is caused by
sexual desire that has yet to be consummated.
Reactionary Sex
Are we experiencing a sexual counter-revolution? Is it a few old white guys mouthing off? Sex is infected by neoliberalism.
A regressive anti-pleasure movement, led by a gaggle of right-wing extremists, religious nutcases and passé feminists.
They think sexual liberation is false-consciousness, that male sexuality is predatory and female sexuality vulnerable.
They believe we can’t be trusted to follow our desires.
These white reactionary males will do anything to keep women in their place. They fear and loathe female power.
Middle-aged men think they know what’s best for women. These dinosaurs long for a past where they had all the power and women were secretaries and housewives.