Today, a teenage girl who finds herself in a sexually
charged encounter with a boy is likely to be up against
the accumulative influence of thousands of porn images
and clips on which his (and possibly her) sexual
expectations and arousal have been incessantly
and indelibly fused since puberty.
Their sexual exchange is likely to hurtle towards
his orgasm before she has time to reach for the tissues.
In my day, at least mutual ignorance was a kind of bliss.
Sexual tension was guaranteed since it could take a few weeks
for a boy to work up the courage and skill to undo your bra.
Nobody knew what they were doing or expected anyone else to.
If he managed to (prematurely) ejaculate, it was much more
likely to be experienced with embarrassment than entitlement,
maybe even an apology and an offer to make amends if you were lucky.
A seemingly obvious subject has been surprisingly absent
in mainstream sex education. We need to encourage girls
to masturbate and fantasize more.
Self love is so fundamental to empowering girls’
sexuality that this post could have been headlined
Why Teenage Girls Need to Masturbate More.
Only a third of the teenage girls masturbate regularly
with a staggering 50 per cent saying they had never
masturbated at all.
This is in line with other research which also indicates
that more than three quarters of teenage boys masturbate regularly.
Striptease from Evgeny Ignatov on Vimeo.
Virgin Girls
Virgin girls can be really annoying and eat up your energy:
They are insecure and project their insecurities onto you.
They have no idea what feels good to them or their partner, so the sex is terrible.
They are nervous so they are just having sex to have sex and not relaxing and enjoying the moment (this only comes with experience).
I am pretty well endowed so it’s terribly frustrating to find out a girl I like is a virgin because it takes forever to get her to relax enough for me to even fit inside her, I’ve been with girls that putting my finger inside them hurts, so imagine how long it takes.
The aftermath emotions from a virgin are chaotic and unpredictable-it usually goes one of two ways: the girl starts acting like a slut and swears more and pretends to be a badass, or she denies it and says it never happened.
This is due to an immensely damaging aspect of society that expects girls to never have sex or risk being labeled as a slut, which innately doesn’t have any consequences, other than being called that by people or developing a reputation.
Losing Your Virginity
Is This Your First Time?
How do you feel about the first time you had sex? If you pose this question to a bunch of different people, you’re bound to find a range of responses.
Some will remember it as incredibly positive and pleasurable, while others will say it was just awkward and uncomfortable. These emotional reactions to our first sexual experiences seem to be important too
Studies have found that people who evaluate their virginity loss positively report having more satisfying sex lives than those who look back with anxiety and regret.
However, a new study just published in the Journal of Sex Research reports some encouraging news: Overall, first-time sex appears to be a more positive experience than it was a few decades ago.
The survey asked participants to indicate the year in which they first had sexual intercourse, as well as the extent to which they felt the following emotions about that sexual event: pleasure, anxiety, and guilt.
All participants reported losing their virginity somewhere between 1980 to 2012. Sprecher found a trend across time such that women’s ratings of pleasure increased in recent years, while their ratings of guilt decreased.
Women also showed a slight uptick in anxiety, but that was the smallest of the emotional changes observed. For men, ratings of pleasure and guilt remained pretty much constant, but anxiety decreased significantly.
In general, men reported higher levels of pleasure and anxiety, while women reported higher levels of guilt. These sex differences were observed across almost all years of the study.
However, it is interesting to note that men’s and women’s emotional reactions seemed to be converging in recent years (i.e., the differences between them appeared to be getting smaller).
These fascinating results suggest that how college students feel about their first sexual experience seems to be changing for the better, and that men and women may actually be growing more similar in how they look back on their sexual debut.
