Many men blame their uncontrollable sex
drive when they pressure women for sex.
It’s often given as the reason men cheat.
It seems men can’t help themselves when
it comes to sex.
No one imagined women could have uncontrollable
sexual urges.As a man I’ve been fortunate enough
to meet a few. And believe me…
Now Guido is done being patient. He yanks my panties down
in a savage jerk that leaves a gash of his dirty nail on
one of my thighs. I scream in pain, and that scream
becomes a long moan of passion as he thrusts his cock
in me without bothering to check if I am ready.
His hands again pin my hands over my head and he grips
my legs in his own strong ones. I am almost pinned to
the bed in this position, and as Guido thrusts at a frantic
pace, all that I can do is to let out long moans,and thrust
my hips at him. His mouth is hungry, it’s everywhere.
It is sucking at my neck, it is giving a love bite on
my breasts. He even kisses my armpits and that just
sends me over the edge.
I am begging for him to let go of my hands. He does
not understand or cares, and keeps banging away.
Girls, did your man like flip you midway through sex lately?
Guido does exactly that. He makes me sit on my hands and knees,
facing away from him. Then without any warning or provocation,
he slaps my rump hard.
Oh I am fucking him exactly like he wants and he is still
hitting me? And why am I getting so turned on by that?
When he enters me from behind, my scream is loud enough
to be heard across the street. He grabs my breasts through
my armpits and hammers away again. The bed is creaking the
way it has not creaked in, oh, last ten years or so.
Guido takes maddeningly long time to cum and the moment
is again preceded by a couple of light slaps on my rump.
It is some kind of thing with him, it seems. The brute
keeps me pinned beneath him while murmuring unintelligibly.
How to Have
From birth, we possess an instinctual libido (sexual appetite) that develops in five stages.
Each stage, the oral, the anal, the phallic, the latent, and the genital, is characterized by the erogenous zone that is the source of the libidinal drive.
If the child experiences anxiety, thwarting his or her sexual appetite during any libidinal (psychosexual) development stage, that anxiety will last into adulthood as a neurosis, a functional mental disorder.
We may develop a psychological fixation in adulthood because of lack of proper gratification during one of the psychosexual stages of development.
The first stage is the oral stage, spanning from birth until the age of two years. The infant’s mouth is the focus of libidinal gratification derived from the pleasure of feeding at the mother’s breast, and from the oral exploration of his or her environment – the tendency to place objects in the mouth.
The id dominates, because neither the ego nor the super ego is yet fully developed, and, since the infant has no personality (identity), every action is based upon the pleasure principle.
Weaning is the key experience in the infant’s oral stage of psychosexual development, his or her first feeling of loss consequent to losing the physical intimacy of feeding at mother’s breast.
Yet, weaning increases the infant’s self-awareness that he or she does not control the environment, and thus learns of delayed gratification.
This leads to the formation of the capacities for independence (awareness of the limits of the self) and trust (behavior leading to gratification).
Yet, thwarting of the oral-stage — too much or too little gratification of desire — might lead to an oral-stage fixation, characterised by passivity, gullibility, immaturity, unrealistic optimism, which can lead to a manipulative personality as a result of ego malformation.
In the case of too much gratification, the child does not learn that he or she does not control the environment, and that gratification is not always immediate, thus forming an immature personality.
In the case of too little gratification, the infant might become passive upon learning that gratification is not forthcoming, despite having produced the gratifying behavior.
The term nymphomania [hyper sexuality in women] feels as archaic as pseudoscience terms from the 19th century. It’s like hysteria, a term that used to describe female irrationality or excitement.
The exploration of this subject matter certainly brings about the question as to whether or not nymphomania inherently exists or did we as a society create the label?
There is a razor-sharp duality of sexuality in our society whereby if you abstain from sexual activity you’re a prude but if you enjoy it you’re promiscuous female.
The Oxford Dictionary’s official definition of the word provides some additional context into the double standard as it defines nymphomania as the “uncontrollable or excessive sexual desire in a woman.”
So by the sheer definition of the term, men are exempt from the conversation of sexual overindulgence or promiscuity.
At what point does one cease having a normal sexual appetite and become a nymphomaniac? Perhaps, as is the case with most other addictions, it crosses that line when the dependency upon a substance or activity becomes damaging or harmful to yourself or others around you.
The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsive Behavior defines sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.”
Essentially it becomes a problem when you are unable to suppress urges that become less of an exception and more of a norm. With the increasing prevalence of overt sexuality in our society, the definition of excess leaves much to interpretation.