nubility: the condition of being marriageable,
especially in reference to a woman’s age or
physical development. — nubile, adj.
1. (of a girl or woman) sexually attractive.
“he always employed a nubile young secretary.”
2.(of a girl or young woman) sexually
mature; old enough for marriage.
You have no idea what a fantastic bacchanal college
was in the 1960s unless you were there. Let the sunshine in!
The great anti-war protests gave us a chance
to pretend we were serious, but, believe me,
it was much more about finding someone to
hook-up with at the teach-ins and the street marches.
The birth control pill was a fabulous novelty.
We ignored the side-effects — especially the social
side effects that led later on to an epidemic of
divorces and broken families.
When you are a young man, sex is at least half of what
you think of minute-by-minute. I was on a campus where
all you saw were waves of nubile, jiggling breasts
coming at you beneath those sheer peasant blouses.
Between the age limits of nine and fourteen there are nubiles who,
to certain bewitched travelers, twice or many times older than they,
reveal their true nature which is not human, but nymphic (that is,
demoniac); and these chosen creatures I know as ‘nymphets’.
In the marketing of porn, “lolita” is used to refer to
the sexualized presentation of a young girl, frequently
one who has only recently reached the age of consent,
yet appears to be younger than that.
Should I Have Sex
at a Tender Age?
Of course. It’s the best thing going.
Porn doesn’t even come close.
Speaking of porn, having sex regularly
will drastically cut down your
It’ll help build up your confidence,
make you more sociable and better
in dealing with the opposite sex.
It eliminates the burden of virginity
and makes sex a lot less complicated.
Practice makes perfect. An early
start means more experience.
It’s healthy, helps burn
calories and keeps you fit.
Teenagers who are sexually active tend
to look after themselves better and
make more effort in grooming and hygiene.
My Sweet Nubile
What makes women attractive? It’s a simple question,
but it has been a topic of debate among evolutionary
psychologists and anthropologists for decades.
Perceived youthfulness [nubility] is the key ingredient.
Men are most attracted to women who have only recently
entered physical and sexual maturity (and who have not
yet been pregnant), as these are clear signs of high
If It Feels
Good, Do It
Most teens and pre-teens have a lot of questions about sex and sexuality. This is normal and natural. It’s also normal to feel shy or embarrassed about raising these issues with adults.
Adolescents need to experiment. Despite dire warnings from parents and teachers, indulging in sex, having sexual intercourse, practising oral sex, are perfectly OK and necessary activities if a teenager is to gain sexual experience.
Sexual development is an important part of health, similar to other measures of physical growth, such as height and weight. Sexual behavior,
There are many ways to express intimacy. Spending time with another person, holding hands, and kissing are all ways to show affection and begin to explore physical intimacy.
As you develop sexual desire for others, you will probably want to explore these and other areas of physical intimacy.
If two people are having sex, both of them must be old enough and mature enough to participate without feeling pressured to prove something or try something new.
If a sex act is forced upon a person who does not want to participate, this is called rape. Rape is a serious crime that can result in being arrested, spending time in jail, and having a permanent criminal record. Having sex with someone who is not sure they want to have sex can also be called rape.
For teens, feelings about sex can be new and confusing. For example, sometimes a person begins kissing or petting but then changes their mind and wants to stop.
The other person must always listen, even if it is very difficult to stop. It is not harmful to stop sex before orgasm occurs.
Teens sometimes get into difficult situations if they are drinking or using drugs and having sex. In these cases, someone may seem to want sex, but they may be too drunk or high to know what they are doing. Later, the sex can be called rape.
Fit for Sex
A TINDER hook-up which led to two Coast teens losing their virginity has also landed a man in court for carnal knowledge.
The 18-year-old, who has not been named to protect the identity of the victim, was 17 and still at high school when he met the 15-year-old girl on the dating app Tinder last year.
The girl and her parents watched from the public gallery of the District Court on Monday as the man was sentenced for having sex with her on multiple occasions during their week-long relationship.
The court heard the relationship ended after the girl’s father found out about it.
The Crown prosecutor said the man had initiated the sexual encounters, but the defence solicitor said some had been initiated by the girl.
The prosecutor accepted that age difference was not large, but the girl needed to be protected because of her young age.
The defence conceded that her client knew the girl was under age and should not have continued with the relationship.
She said the man cooperated with police and was particularly remorseful.
Ms Emery said he had lost a working with children blue card as a result of the charges and hoped to start his own business as a personal trainer.
The judge said Tinder was colloquially known as a “hook-up site”.
She said the victim had friends who were sexually active and had wanted to fit in with them.
She also noted the man and the girl were virgins before the relationship.
Judge Csaid the man had not coerced or forced the girl into sex.
The girl did not provide a victim impact statement but her mother did, saying her daughter was too young to cope with a sexual relationship.
The Judge was satisfied that the circumstances of the case were exceptional, which spared the man from a prison sentence.
The man was placed on a two-year probation order.
Theory & Practice
Sex education courses tends to focus on the girls. “Girls are the ones who have babies,” says Victoria Jennings, director of the Institute for Reproductive Health at Georgetown University, whose research has shown there are globally more programs developed to help young girls navigate their sexuality than to help boys.
Given the fact that recent CDC literature shows 43.9% of women have experienced some form of unwanted sexual violence that was not rape, and 23.4% of men have experienced the same, public health experts agree both sexes need education on appropriate behavior.
It doesn’t help that the two groups are getting quite different messages. “The way we talk to boys is antiquated and stereotypical,” says Rosalind Wiseman, educator and author of Queen Bees and Wannabes, about teen girls and Masterminds and Wingmen, on boys.
“There’s an assumption that they’re insensitive, sex-crazed, hormone-crazed. It’s no surprise that so many boys disengage from so many conversations about sex ed.”
We teach girls how to protect themselves, adds Wiseman, and their rights to say yes and no to sexual behaviors. But we don’t teach boys the complexities of these situations or that they’re a part of the conversation. “We talk to them in sound bites: ‘no means no.’
Well, of course it does, but it’s really confusing when you’re a 15-year-old boy and you’re interacting with girls that are trying out their sexuality,” she adds.
Data show that boys are less likely than girls to talk to their parents about birth control or “how to say no to sex,” and 46% of sexually experienced teen boys do not receive formal instruction about contraception before they first have sex compared to 33% of teen girls.
Yet completely reshaping the sex education landscape is currently almost impossible, not just because of disagreements like the one in Fremont, but because schools lack resources.
There’s historically large funding for abstinence-only education, but supporters of comprehensive sex education—which deals with contraception, sexually transmitted diseases and relationships—face significant logistical and financial barriers.
Only 22 states and the District of Columbia require public schools teach sex education. Oklahoma and Alabama—two states with the highest teen pregnancy rates—don’t require any sex ed. And few states really take a critical look at sexuality in the way kids encounter it, through TV shows, movies, and yes, even pornography. It’s like taking a child to a waterpark without teaching them how to swim.
This leaves the ball in the parents’ court. A recent survey from Planned Parenthood shows that 80% of parents are willing to have “the talk” with their kids, but in order for these conversations to have real meaning, parents need to understand just how much sexual exposure their kids are getting daily and how soon.
They also need to overcome the desire to lecture, and kids need to understand that the conversation is less about rules and more about guidance. All of this while having a conversation about what is usually a very private matter.
Some experts believe that many of the obstacles can be overcome by approaching the adolescent in his or her own habitat: using the Internet or cell phones as learning tools.
“Perhaps it’s time to fully embrace the power of 21st century communication and direct it toward public health goals more deliberately,” wrote Strasburger and Sarah Brown, the CEO of The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, in a July report. “Online material and social media could help to fill the gaps in sex education and support for many young people.”
Websites like Bedsider.org (developed by Brown’s group) offer easy to understand facts about contraception in an open-minded and legitimate way. As do other websites like StayTeen.org, GoAskAlice! and Sex, etc.
On Scarleteen.com, educators answer questions from “How do I behave sexually without someone thinking I’m a slut?” to questions about pubic hair.
For reaching teenagers right where they gather, it’s hard to beat YouTube. Laci Green has made a name for herself by providing frank and funny videos that answer common questions young people have and dispel myths. Her approach is not for everyone; two of her more popular episodes are “You Can’t POP Your Cherry! (Hymen 101)” and “Sex Object BS.”
Texting has also proved to be a surprisingly useful tool. Some health departments and community groups in states like California and North Carolina have established services where teens can text their sex-related questions to a number and receive a texted response in 24 hours, allowing for anonymity.
Planned Parenthood offers a chat/text program where teens and young adults can either live text or chat with a Planned Parenthood staffer. Since the launch in May this year, there have been a total of 393,174 conversations.
Should parents really cede sex education to the digital realm? Given that an incredibly high number of young people go to the Internet for information on sex anyway, directing them to quality material that appeals to their age range may be the one of the better ways to circumvent poor education at school. Showing kids a reliable website can’t replace a good conversation, but it can complement one.
In Fremont, parents are supplementing their children’s sex education in different ways. “I don’t just rely on the school to teach sex ed to my children,” says Topham. “I told my kids about [sex] when they are in third grade, and open up the dialogue at that point. When we are watching movies together or discussing current events that may touch on this topic, we talk about it.”