Repressing
Sexual Activity
It’s foul and disgusting how much some people
hate sex. Religion’s clammy hands have strangled
the free expression of sexuality for centuries.
It may be decades before we can undo all the harm.
Even today, a woman’s value is predicated
on the number of men she’s slept with.
The fewer, the better, of course.
It’s easy to look at all the sexy commercials on TV,
all the exposure of flesh and think how far we’ve
come in accepting sexuality.
But we still live in a time of purity balls,
where Daddy pledges to protect his little girl
from the scary world and to guard her crotch
like a little pot of gold.
The Subjugation
of Women
For centuries, women’s sexual subjugation has been
normalized and naturalized, and excuses have been
made for the behavior of predatory men.
Why do men catcall women on the street?
Because men are more visual. Why are the
majority of nudes in art museums women?
Because men are more visual. Why is most
porn made for men? Because men are more visual.
In reality, these things are happening
because of power dynamics in which men
look, and women get looked at.
In which men are sexual, and women are sexy.
In which men fuck, and women get fucked.
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Because this dynamic is the status quo,
like the air we breathe, we don’t see where
it’s coming from, so we dismiss it as “nature.”
In reality, it’s culture and patriarchy.
Art Porn
All You
Need Is Lust
Lust Makes
the World Go
Round
We’re drawn to romantic comedies about men and women slowly falling in love, in a slow, low-simmering manner. We laugh with them until they tie the knot and live happily ever after in their comfortable, humorous, cozy little lives. We offer platitudes like love being the most powerful emotion in the world.
But here is simple proof that it is not. About eighty percent of the men who cheat on their wives claim to love their wives. But lust for another woman has superseded their love.
Lust is our most powerful emotion. It’s more temporary than love and it wears off much more rapidly. Lust is the magnificent sprint, not the gruelling marathon of marriage.
Lust is one of the most necessary components in a sexual relationship. I pity the man and woman who have stopped lusting after each other.
In so doing they have lost the deep, passionate, raw, carnal desire that draws them to one another and makes each feel deeply desirable. We all want to be wanted, need to be needed, desire to be desired.
So why do we so disparage lust? Why do we trump love at lust’s expense?
For two reasons. First, we mistakenly think that lust is something merely physical. We wrongly attribute it to being of the body.
Lust is the feverish, intuitive gravitation of masculine to feminine and feminine to masculine. Real lust occurs when there is perfect polar alignment between masculine and feminine opposites.
Lust is what magnetizes an otherwise ordinary man and woman to become infatuated with each other. It’s not just physical but also the arrangement of two opposing energies that causes us to be attracted to each other.
How’s
Your Libido?
Libido [sex drive], is a person’s overall sexual drive or desire for sexual activity. Sex drive is determined by biological, psychological, and social factors.
Biologically, levels of hormones such as testosterone are believed to affect sex drive; social factors, such as work and family, also have an impact; as do internal psychological factors, like personality and stress.
Sex drive may be affected by medical conditions, medications, lifestyle and relationship issues. A person who has extremely frequent or a suddenly increased sex drive may be experiencing hypersexuality, or puberty in which the body builds up chemicals and causes a higher sex drive.
However, there is no universally agreed measure of what is a healthy level for sex. Asexual people may lack any sexual desires.
A person may have a desire for sex, but not have the opportunity to act on that desire, or may on personal, moral or religious reasons refrain from acting on the urge.
Psychologically, a person’s urge can be repressed or sublimated. On the other hand, a person can engage in sexual activity without actual desire for it.
Males reach the peak of their sex drive in their teens, while females reach it in their thirties. Multiple factors affect human sex drive, including stress, illness, pregnancy, and others.
Sexual desire is often an important factor in the formation and maintenance of intimate relationships in both men and women, and a lack or loss of sexual desire can adversely affect relationships.
In psychoanalysis and psychology, lust is often treated as a case of “heightened libido”. A person is more likely to lust over someone who does not resemble oneself.
Self-relatedness is a cue of kinship and causes an instinctual reaction to not be attracted. Therefore, self-resemblance decreases attractiveness and sexual desire in a person while less resemblance increases attractiveness and sexual desire creating a higher possibility of lust.