A Woman’s ‘Inner Lust’
Why are women screwing around more than ever before? Is it because women are finding their inner lust and want to gratify it? Or are there other reasons?
1. No Time for a Relationship
Anyone who’s ever been in a long-term relationship knows that keeping it in working order often takes a high level of dedication and willingness on the part of both parties involved.
Going out of your way to work through a difficult period in the relationship demands much more time and effort than just calling it quits.
This kind of devotion doesn’t seem to be something that your average Gen-X woman has the time or patience for. She’s probably too busy trying to get her career in high-gear and spending time with her friends to dedicate too much time and energy to a boyfriend.
For such women, the investment in time and sheer effort required for a serious relationship just isn’t worth their while. They prefer keeping things casual and strictly for kicks, rather than having to deal with the potential inconvenience of a boyfriend.
One-night stands are the perfect solution for these women because they get all the good stuff and none of the bad.
They get to go on the dates, enjoy the dinners and weekend getaways, and the rush of having sex with a new partner, without having to contend with compromising themselves for another person or what they deem to be annoying male habits.
2. Fear of Commitment
Other women choose sleeping around over being in a relationship because they’re scared of opening themselves up to a man, and making themselves vulnerable in the process.
Maybe they’ve been hurt in the past and believe that sleeping around is a good way to avoid developing any real feelings for another person, which would create the possibility of them getting hurt again.
3. A Fun Activity
Some women just love sex. In fact, they love the act more than the guy they happen to be having sex with. For these women, sex is the ultimate pastime and they are going to get it as often as possible. They’re hot to trot and want instant gratification.
Whenever the opportunity presents itself, they are going to take full advantage of it. Their motto is simply “why not?”
4. Don’t Know How to Say “No”
It’s a fact that many women have a hard time saying “no.” They try to be there for their friends and families, their bosses and co-workers, and the list goes on.
Sometimes, this willingness to please extends to their personal lives as well, and they find themselves unable to turn down a man’s advances.
They actually feel guilty turning a man down for sex. They may even go as far as to think that because a guy took them out for dinner and was nice to them, they’re obliged to sleep with him.
Maybe if they paid the guy to fuck him, they could avoid such guilt-induced one-night stands.
More Casual Sex
Many men and women have the sad experience
of mating with someone who refuses to indulge
in playful sex or whose preferences are entirely
at odds with their partner’s.
Emotion and libido are by no means guaranteed to be compatible. .
Casual sex bypasses this by being concerned primarily with the
libido, which is typically regarded as a source of shame and
fear, but can yield its own profound and revelatory moments.
The fear and propaganda around one-night stands isn’t
just sexist, it’s illogical. Bad long-term relationships
involving miscommunication, unmet expectations, and lies
are just as likely to damage participants as any sexual
disappointment on a short-term scale.
Both men and women are only as vulnerable as they allow
themselves to be, and provided they’re with someone who
won’t exploit it, vulnerability can be a beautiful thing
whether in the confines of a traditional relationship or not.
A series of hook ups might lead you to the conclusion
that you’re enjoying single life and not ready for
anything longer-term. Or it may prove that you feel
the best sexually and emotionally when you’re
serious about someone.
Either way, it will be a truth about yourself you’ve
tested out, not something you assumed out of fear.
Everyone’s had some sort of sexual experience and
they all think they’re experts on it. Most of the
time sex is a pretty predictable phenomenon, more
like operating a basic machine than learning
the unique tastes of an individual.
Given our culture
There’s this obsessive promotion of narrow
beauty aesthetics and even narrower sexual
practices, one might never suspect people
have wildly divergent preferences, arousal
triggers, and responses to touch.
Variety in partners makes it nearly impossible to maintain
the “one size fits all” mentality, while never experiencing
more than one partner might actually reinforce it.
